Friday, 28 February 2025

Monthly Musings: February 2025

An overview of opinions and observations for the month.

01/02/2025 @16:35
Crawled outta bed at almost 11am. Spoke to landlady and Bodge Job Billy is going sort the back gate in a couple weeks time ๐Ÿฅด Had a shower then spent pretty much all afternoon playing Minecraft with Lysh on this new "Dwellers" mod pack she's bought ๐Ÿฅฐ๐ŸŽฎ then we've had a massive cuddle & tickle fight on the sofas during which I found out she has ticklish wrists??! And now she's upstairs getting prepped for going out later to celebrate Sammie, Keanu, & Lance's birthdays at Roberto's Pizza ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ•๐Ÿฅ‚

01/02/2025 @22:48
Lovely night out with family ๐Ÿฅฐ Me & Bug met up with Sam, Lance, Lo, Keanu & the kids at Spoons first for a couple drinks ๐Ÿป then we had a walk down to Robertos where we met up with Stay, Ang, and Tez for a nice meal together ๐Ÿ•๐Ÿจ got back home & now Lysh wants play Minecraft before bed, so we're going back on this Dwellers mod! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐ŸŽฎ

02/02/2025 @11:05
Just seen some absolute scrote walk past the back of my gaff, notice my old boxed microwave pinning the gate shut, and proper rubberneck to see if it was worth robbing ๐Ÿ˜‚ I stood watching him out the window but he didn't notice me looking... but what an absolute little tramp! ๐Ÿฅด

02/02/2025 @13:44
This weekends catch phrase has been "Absolutely not", brought to you by Viktor off Arcane.

02/02/2025 @17:15
Another day successfully spent on the sofas with Bug playing Minecraft together ๐Ÿฅฐ๐ŸŽฎ and she's even let me have a few cuddles again! Love this kid so fucking much, it's ridiculous! My favourite person in the whole world! ๐Ÿ’› Told her she'd got to have scrambled egg on toast for tea but then secretly made her a pizza again because I knew that she really wanted it ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ•

02/02/2025 @18:25
Bug asked if she could take some of her clothes from my house on her London residential school trip & her Mum agreed... so she's just taken a solid 92% of her wardrobe from here back home with her! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿฅด

02/02/2025 @23:45
Really enjoying this Crisis Core. Simply wandering around the Sector 5 Slums with Aerith is everything... she is so pure... ๐Ÿฅน๐ŸŽฎ

03/02/2025 @14:00
[Watching Narcos S02E06]
Fucking baffling how these murderous criminals can act so surprised when there are consequences to their actions! ๐Ÿ˜‚ It's unbelievable, we've been murdering loads of people, and now someone has murdered people close to me in retaliation!!? Whaaaaat?!

03/02/2025 @19:10
Just had a video call with a happy Bug from her dorm at St. Pauls including cameos from Ivy, Gracie, Alyssa & Maya ๐ŸŽค๐Ÿ˜‚ the overarching theme of the call was "BOOM Maya's Dad" who I get the impression is dead and has been cremated... ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ”ฅ

03/02/2025 @21:28
Had a quick catch up with Pete over the phone ๐Ÿ“ฒ and now I'm going to chill out with some munch & hammer through some Crisis Core missions! ๐Ÿซ๐Ÿต๐ŸŽฎ

03/02/2025 @23:54
We have a duty, an obligation to enjoy this life that we have been blessed with. Our troubles are largely trivial, trifling things that won't matter in a week or a month. We are so privileged to exist in this day and age, with all these creature comforts, such abundance, and opportunity afforded to us. It would be a great tragedy to die without appreciating our lives every single day. Carpe diem.

04/02/2025 @09:34
Oh, so we're doing brinksmanship? Aight, bet.

04/02/2025 @13:46
[Watching Narcos S02E07]
Pablo Escobar straight gaslighting his Mum. 1000% her fault.

04/02/2025 @20:15
[Playing Crisis Core: Reunion]
Eeeek! I'm en route to Modeoheim following the helicopter crash... and it's Cloud! ๐Ÿคฉ

04/02/2025 @23:40
Tyskie, Pedigree & Doom ๐Ÿป with Pete ๐ŸŽค๐ŸŽธ

05/02/2025 @08:34
Always remember, most people are spending money they can't afford to, on shit they don't need, to impress people they don't like. Life has become a pageantry of vanity. Stay humble. Practice gratitude. There are plenty of people out there who would swap places with you in a heartbeat.

05/02/2025 @21:45
What a comedy of errors! Fancied cracking this 2019 bottle of Clos Montblanc Xipella, so I peels off the foil to find a cork. Wait, do I even have a corkscrew? Can't see one in the drawer. Google, how can I open it? Use a screw and claw hammer. Lol, okay? No, that didn't work - just fucked the cork. Right, I know I have a corkscrew on a swiss army knife that Rob Lowe gave me when I was in Y6 at Mill Hill... so let's go find that out my memories box. Fuck sake, okay, right. Aaaand it's not working, the cork is even more fucked. Knock on the neighbours - excuse me, you got a corkscrew? No? Mint. Try ring Pete, no answer. Message TJ - not even such a man of culture has a corkscrew! Chance it, bowl around the local papershop at 21:35 at night... whaaat?! They actually have them!? ยฃ2.89 on a corkscrew and back home to finally get this bottle open! Struggling to get it to catch since the cork is so fucked from the earlier shithousery... but finally, success! I'm in... aaaand relax... ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿท

05/02/2025 @23:15
[Playing Crisis Core: Reunion]
"Yeah! I'm gettin' pumped!" Fuck my life! ๐Ÿฆฟ These squats are almost as irksome as dodging 200 lightning strikes in FFX! โšก But goddamn it, Aerith will have all of her flower carts! ๐Ÿ’

06/02/2025 @08:47
Walking up my street and some young lady is struggling to open a can of de-icer. As I approach she really politely asks if I can try to get the lid off for her. Being the macho gentleman that I am, I of course agree to assist. She passes me the can, and I try to get the lid off and somehow manage to completely destroy it in the process ๐Ÿ˜ณ the lady is reassuringly thanking me & saying it's fine, whilst I apologise profusely whilst handing her a can of de-icer and a handful of broken plastic shards ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜‚

06/02/2025 @12:55
Nice little chat with Sammie who popped by my work. A brief visit which also included helping to load a keg of Guinness into her car from Pink ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿบ๐Ÿš—

06/02/2025 @13:50
[Watching Narcos S02E09]
Just remembered that when I was talking about this to Matt yesterday, Bill wandered into the room and casually stated that Escobar got extradited to prison in the USA. I was like ffs Bill, you've effectively just ruined the show for me! I've been watching wondering if he's going to be captured or killed... and now you've just told me how it ends for him?! ๐Ÿคฌ Then he goes on his phone and says, actually, it says he was shot in the head along with his bodyguard here... and I'm screaming in my head SHUT THE FUCK UP SPOILING IT FOR ME!

06/02/2025 @18:38
[Listening to Doechii: Denial is a River]
This music video is giving Fresh Prince of Bel Air. Swear I just saw Jazzy Jeff get thrown out the door by Uncle Phil... ๐Ÿค”

06/02/2025 @21:25
Tonight's agenda is polishing off the remainder of this red wine & also polishing off the remainder of FFVII Crisis Core! ๐Ÿท๐ŸŽฎ

07/02/2025 @00:05
[Playing Crisis Core: Reunion]
That concludes things here. Damn Zack, you were a real one. Fuck man, poor Aerith waiting for someone to return who is never coming back. Potentially driven more by my affinity for FFVII, I have thoroughly enjoyed this prequel and my foray into the life and affairs of Zack Fair. It built beautifully onto my existing understanding and intepretation of events in the wider universe of FFVII, and explored the pasts, motivations, and relationships of a whole panoply of support characters. Really explored the nuance of the bad guys with sincerity and authenticity. Genesis, Sephiroth, the Turks... there is so much more depth than was ever conveyed in the original 1997 FFVII.

07/02/2025 @11:45
Today is being spent formalising a Health & Safety Policy for work, with assistance from ChatGPT, since ours is a few years out of date... ๐Ÿฅด๐Ÿ˜‚

07/02/2025 @15:00
Lysh's train back from London has been delayed... typical UK infrastructure! ๐Ÿš„๐Ÿ™„

07/02/2025 @23:35
Lovely night with Bug telling me all about London and she even bought me some souvenirs back! ๐Ÿฅน She's ravenously eaten food that she actually likes since most of the meals she had in London were not to her liking... ๐ŸŸ๐Ÿ” We've both played a bit of Minecraft ๐ŸŽฎ then she's danced around the living room to Tik-Tok whilst I was on Procreate doing a sketch of Aiden Clark off SBG ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐ŸŽจ๐Ÿคก we discovered that 'bbno$' made 'Lalala' as well as 'Two' ๐Ÿ˜ฒ๐ŸŽง then we bowled around the offy at almost 10pm to grab snacks ๐Ÿซ๐Ÿญ Lysh got her outfit complimented by a bloke who was buying a bottle of wine, who was the first person I've heard suffer with dyscalculia ๐Ÿงฎ๐Ÿท then after sugar crashing, Bug called it a day at the reasonable hour of 23:30 because she's shattered from such an exhausting week ๐Ÿ˜ด she was proper looking forward to sleeping in her huge comfy king size bed after what she described as a week of sleeping on "those blue gym mats with a white sheet over it"! ๐Ÿ›๏ธ๐Ÿ˜ฌ glad to have her back home safe & sound, and that she's had a good time away! Lvyo Bug! ๐Ÿ’›

08/02/2025 @10:30
Up at 10:30 and Bug is still flat out ๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ’ค

08/02/2025 @12:25
Bug got up shortly after midday, has eaten dinner, and now we're getting ready to play Minecraft on this new Realism pack ๐ŸŽฎ๐Ÿ˜…

08/02/2025 @12:45
Parenting a tween means being shown Tik-Toks of their interests and having to pretend you understand what they are on about so your kid doesn't get mad at you! ๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿฅด

08/02/2025 @13:16
PS Network is down so I can't play Minecraft with Bug, even on LAN party! ๐ŸŽฎ๐Ÿคฌ

08/02/2025 @16:10
Not 11yr old Ivy telling Lysh that she might do OnlyFan's when she's 18 so she can afford a holiday to Korea... ๐Ÿคฏ๐Ÿฅด

08/02/2025 @17:02
Let Lysh choose whatever she fancied for tea and she chose Domino's ๐Ÿ• I am not a fan, so I ordered Loaded Vegetables ๐Ÿง€๐Ÿซ‘๐Ÿ„ and Lysh cannot believe it ๐Ÿ˜‚

08/02/2025 @21:23
[Playing God of War Ragnarok]
Interesting to be playing this so soon after completing Assassins Creed Valhalla, since both involve the same themes, lore, and pantheon of Gods. Good to be back with Kratos once more; time to get another Platinum trophy I reckon to complete the set.

09/02/2025 @02:14
Drinking red wine & mourning for the past. God, I've been so blessed to know such beautiful people & make such amazing memories. I love you all, most of y'all likely don't even realise how much you mean to me. Damn, it's a travesty. Some of you mean the world to me. Thanks for making my life so colourful, so vibrant, such a privilege. Debts I doubt I'll ever repay. It's not always been easy, but fuck, it's been one hell of a ride. I love life, and the delicious blank pages of the future that I get to fill with new memories, experiences, and magic. I am so grateful for everything and everyone who's been part of this journey. And I am so impatient to see what the future holds.

09/02/2025 @11:02
Trump's press secretary Karoline Leavitt though... ๐Ÿซก

09/02/2025 @12:36
After speaking to him last night, and him saying he was looking forward to visiting, Char hasn't come again today ๐Ÿ˜” so I'm just spending another day curled up on the sofa with the PlayStation... ๐ŸŽฎ

09/02/2025 @21:55
Fleeting visit off Pete for a brew & a chat on a Sunday night ๐Ÿตโ˜•

10/02/2025 @10:35
Woke up late, on the way to work I get a call off Raj letting me know the Derby branch is having phone issues, and then I arrive at the office to discover that the heating is broken so it's like 2ยฐC indoors! ๐Ÿ˜ด๐Ÿ“ž๐ŸงŠ What a time to be alive! ๐Ÿ’€๐Ÿฅด

10/02/2025 @12:39
Not saying it's cold at work, but I just went for a jimmy and an actual icicle shot out, like some sort of pissile missile. Everyone is wearing their coats indoors; I'm legitimately wearing a scarf and gloves at my desk whilst I work ffs! ๐Ÿฅถ

10/02/2025 @23:45
[Playing God of War Ragnarok]
Pretty much 10hrs in and only just left Alfheim... ๐ŸงŠ๐Ÿช“๐ŸŽฎ

11/02/2025 @18:14
Bug messaging me to ask if I can transfer a fiver into her bank so she can buy a drink from B&M on her card has actually killed me off! ๐Ÿ˜… She's out with her mates, just missioning around Biddulph... which tbf is very age appropriate. But at the same time, she just seems so grown up! And I'm trying to figure out when that happened?! ๐Ÿ˜ฃ

11/02/2025 @20:43
Dragging my ass across to the Moorland catch the Man City vs. Real Madrid match ๐Ÿบโšฝ

11/02/2025 @21:36
Moved down to the Green Star since it's ยฃ2.60 a pint rather than ยฃ5.30... plus you get a free pint for every 5 you buy! ๐Ÿฅด๐Ÿบ

11/02/2025 @22:50
Just wanted to be around people. Feel so fucking lonely lately, so isolated. Same four walls, same four faces. Just wanted to break the monotony. Ventured out of my comfort zone, only to end the night frustrated and sat alone because apparently I talk too much. Sorry Dave, I was just trying to be friendly and have a conversation in a pub. "Did you ever work in sales? I can tell. You don't shut up.". We'll try again another day, in another venue, because evidently this ain't the one.

11/02/2025 @23:34
Gotcha, loud and clear ๐ŸŒน๐Ÿ”•

12/02/2025 @00:03
I fear that six pints were precisely too many & I may regret tonights decisions in the sadly sobering morning light... ๐Ÿบ

12/02/2025 @09:35
Bug is off school unwell for the first time in a long time ๐Ÿคฎ

12/02/2025 @14:45
I had been toying with the idea of joining RWG lately but was deflated with the prospect of having to pay ~ยฃ10 on taxi's each week. It just didn't seem financially viable. Then last night, under the spell of alcohol, it dawned on me: walk ๐Ÿ’ก It's just shy of 4-miles away, and my standard walking pace is 3.6mph, so I could be back home about an hour after it ends tbf... ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ’๐Ÿผโ€โ™‚๏ธ

12/02/2025 @19:12
Must be getting old, because tonight I am livid that they've changed the bottles for Alberto Balsam so you now pay the same price, but the volume is reduced from 350ml to 300ml! ๐Ÿคฌ

12/02/2025 @19:28
Been speaking with Ree about Buggo being unwell. She's perked up a bit now but has been struggling to eat all day & has a headache. She was running a fever earlier too, though thankfully it's calmed down now and she's back to a normal temp. My poor little duck - hate her being poorly! Get well soon Bug! ๐Ÿ’›

12/02/2025 @23:30
[Playing God of War Ragnarok]
Forgot how gorgeous these games are; having it split across the 9 different realms allows for such a wide variety of terrain, palettes, and atmosphere in the environmental design. Just into Vanaheim after playing in Jotunheim and Alfheim, and once again fascinated at the immersion and uniqueness of the world. Each realm feels fresh and exciting.

13/02/2025 @19:52
Had 2x Shipyards & a Dropkick IPA with Matty at Spoons before he goes off on paternity leave ๐Ÿป then popped around for a Hawkstone IPA & a Butty Bach whilst I catch up with Sammie & Emma at the Golden Cup! ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿป

13/02/2025 @21:15
Oh no(ro)! It appears that Ree has caught this dreaded norovirus off Bug! ๐Ÿคฎ๐Ÿ™ˆ I better not catch it over the weekend!

13/02/2025 @23:30
[Playing God of War Ragnarok]
Well, fighting the Nidhogg alongside Freya was frustrating! ๐ŸŽฎ Possibly due to the alcohol in my system... or more likely the incessant beeping of this damn smoke alarm!! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿฅด

14/02/2025 @10:05
Happy Valentines Day... so far I've been served mouldy toast & Bodger Billy has let me know he's not coming sort the back gate this weekend after all! Apparently he hasn't even been paid for the last job he did... ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿผโ€โ™‚๏ธ๐Ÿ’”

14/02/2025 @14:28
[Watching Narcos S03E07]
It's fucked if Jorge gets left out to dry after practically giving them Miguel on a silver platter.

14/02/2025 @12:19
When you're single, checking social media on Valentine's Day can be either rough or a relief... it's truly a dice roll! ๐ŸŽฒ

14/02/2025 @18:47
Nice to have Bug here, on the mend despite leaving school at lunchtime today because she was feeling sick ๐Ÿ˜Œ

14/02/2025 @23:45
Dwellers on Minecraft with Bug again ๐Ÿฅฐ๐ŸŽฎ

15/02/2025 @11:48
Just woke up. It's 11:48am. What... ๐Ÿคฏ๐Ÿฅด

15/02/2025 @12:34
Lysh just smashed her leg up the freezer, then shrugged it off and described her ankle as being "invincible" then "immortal" ๐Ÿ˜‚

15/02/2025 @16:41
Seem to be spending all day on Minecraft again ๐Ÿซก๐ŸŽฎ I always have a right good chat to Bug whilst we're gaming... yapa yapa yapa! ๐Ÿ˜‚ She's just been telling me she is going Space Cadets all next week during half term because there'll be nobody at home to look after her during the day. Made me think about how simple and carefree my own childhood was. I said to Lysh that sometimes I feel guilty that I don't make plans for her all the time, or sign her up to loads of clubs/activities etc., but then I never really cared for that sort of stuff as a kid & don't feel like I missed out. But then I had lots of siblings to keep me company. She said that she's glad I don't overfill her schedule, because she needs time to decompress too & to be able spend time with her mates etc. ๐Ÿ˜ฎโ€๐Ÿ’จ I often worry that I'm failing as a parent, or that I'm not doing 'enough' where Lysh is concerned, but thankfully she never seems to see it that way! When I was being silly with her earlier and using her mannerisms and reciting memes, Tik-Toks, and other various brainrot phrases, she said to me: "you're my minion Dad - you're just me, in a different font" ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅน

15/02/2025 @23:45
Bug still hasn't fully recovered from norovirus. Her eating this weekend has been so intermittent and sporadic. She's only had two 'meals' today which were cereal and a pizza. She left almost half the pizza too. She's had a few snacks here and there, but was eating some Flipz earlier and said she felt sick from them. Just taken her up to bed earlier than usual because she's exhausted. Hate feeling helpless to make her feel immediately better!!

16/02/2025 @02:06
Just lay here thinking about how sometimes I really romanticise the idea of being in a relationship. Of having someone who truly cares about me & prioritises me. Someone who appreciates me & understands me. Someone who loves me deeply & thoroughly. Someone I can build a life with, make memories with, and grow old with. Someone who makes me feel like I'm enough. Something so simple, yet elusive. And then I had to laugh at the realisation that my own priority will always be Lysh anyway. That I should stop worrying about that stuff and just keep focusing on the best thing in my life, the ultimate embodiment of my unconditional love - my amazing daughter. Genuinely, I would choose her over anyone and anything. A world without her is a world I don't want to exist within. A life without her is a life without meaning, without purpose. Forever my alpha and omega. Love you most Bug, thank you for simply being you ๐Ÿ’›

16/02/2025 @12:05
In a reversal of yesterday, I got up at like 10am whereas Bug got up at midday ๐Ÿ˜‚ and thanks to Sammie for offering to take her out for a day during half-term to Stafford fair! She is well excited! ๐Ÿฅฐ

16/02/2025 @16:15
Spent a couple hours on Minecraft and then the rest of the afternoon watching Arcane with Bug ๐ŸŽฎ๐Ÿ“บ She still has no appetite, she's only eaten cereal & a packet of crisps all day! ๐Ÿ’€

16/02/2025 @18:16
Always nice to feel appreciated & to do good deeds. Just helped a new neighbour whose electricity had tripped and they had no idea how to resolve it ๐Ÿ”ฆโšก exacerbated by a language barrier... then let them use my phone to call a relative as they have no credit ๐Ÿ’ธ๐Ÿ™ˆ

16/02/2025 @21:45
And today will conclude with pizza & Playstation ๐Ÿ•๐ŸŽฎ

17/02/2025 @08:01
Woke up at 07:52. Checked Life360, and Lysh has been at Space Cadets since 07:20 ๐Ÿ˜ญ

17/02/2025 @10:50
"How do I effectively communicate to my daughter that she is just a normal kid and not a princess without hurting her feelings?"
When my daughter was 3, she also believed she was a Princess. Then she had a stint where she insisted on being called 'Kevin McCallister' and would re-enact Home Alone constantly. She would go ballistic if you called her anything different (like her actual name, lol). Then she was 'Ash Ketchum' (off Pokemon), and she'd call me 'Brock' and her Mum was 'Misty'. Then we had to call her 'Finn the Human' (off Adventure Time), whereas I was 'Jake the Dog' and her Mum was 'Lady Rainicorn'. She was into cosplay for a while (mainly Runa Yomozuki off Kakegurui/Nezuko off Demon Slayer). If I remind her of this 'anime phase', she cringes hard and tells me to shut up. She announced she was bisexual after seeing it on Roblox and started posting rainbow flags everywhere, despite not even understanding what it meant. It was around this time she was experimenting with pronouns and wanted to be referred to by 'they/them'. She grew out of that too. Then she had her frog phase where she was obsessed with 'cottagecore' and 'fairycore' and the family would call her 'Frog' and she would make videos pretending to fly around the house and garden. She had a couple months saying she was a therian and doing 'quadrobics' after seeing it on YouTube. She's currently identifying as pansexual. I'm just watching for how long this phase lasts before she loses interest. The point I'm getting at, is try not to worry about it. It's normal for kids to explore their identity, to try on different personas, and to find what makes them happy and comfortable. I'm sure the Princess phase will be a fond memory in a few years. I don't challenge how my kid identifies - I let her figure it out herself, with unconditional support, acceptance, and love. No matter what, she's my daughter & I will always be here for her. TL:DR: Your kid is 3yrs old, don't overthink it.

17/02/2025 @12:23
Bug's not replied to my messages and her battery has been sat at 95% since I checked at 8am. Either she's not allowed on her phone at Space Cadets, or she's sleeping... ๐Ÿ“ต๐Ÿ˜ด

17/02/2025 @18:40
[Lecture #1: Brandon Sanderson on Writing Science Fiction and Fantasy]
For when you hit a rut and need to get motivated; throw yourself into different environments to stimulate your creativity ๐Ÿง  Though fucking terrifying to hear Sanderson state he was unpublished and getting rejected whilst he already had 12 novels written! ๐Ÿคฏ Consistency is key; wish I had 8hrs a day to write like this guy! ๐Ÿ˜‚ I'm definitely more of an Architect writer than a Discovery writer... really need to get back into my writing. I have stories I want to share with the world! โœ๐Ÿผ

17/02/2025 @21:20
Popped down Forresters for a couple with Pete since I'm likely not going to be seeing him for the remainder of the week after today โ˜ฎ๐Ÿ’™ on the amber ale, cheeky Rev James... when did that happen? I have readily transitioned from drinking lager to ale ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ˜…

17/02/2025 @22:12
"I've got all the SMS finesse of a bic one razor." (Peace Carnage whilst arranging for Nicole to come join us for a bit) ๐Ÿบ

17/02/2025 @23:48
On principle, I don't lend friends money. I'll give them money if needed, but never lend. It's the precedent.

18/02/2025 @00:13
Little thrash on God of War before bed ๐Ÿ˜๐ŸŽฎ

18/02/2025 @10:10
"Stop punishing and making the majority group feel bad about things they arenโ€™t actually doing? Wouldnโ€™t it be better to punish people who actually do wrong"
On this, I've been reading F*ck Whales by Maddox, which despite it's very unconventional approach to some unusual topics, actually makes some really valid points. One of them relates to this. In the chapter "Fuck Abstraction", he talks about how society has moved from holding people individually accountable, to abstract targets like "the war on drugs" and "rape culture" etc, things that can never actually be "won" or "overcome" as their is no actual tangible outcome, no metric to gauge success against. I agree with your point; we should stop generalising and return to holding individuals accountable for their actions. For example, no, it's not "rape culture's" fault that females are getting raped on college campuses, it's the rapists fault. By saying "rape culture", it almost absolves the rapist of blame - after all, it's not really their fault they raped someone, it could just as easily been anyone of us men committing the rape, because "rape culture" is so pervasive. How about we stop blaming "rape culture" which implies all men are potential rapists, and instead return to blaming the actual rapists.

18/02/2025 @15:13
Why is it that pretty much every criminal in Stoke-on-Trent is "of no fixed address" and only gets a suspended sentence?

18/02/2025 @18:32
Today's good deed has been putting the neighbours bin out (and pile of bin bags from beside it). I'm beginning to wonder if they moved out at the weekend in all honesty, because it's been silent as a grave since Sunday and I've not seen anyone coming or going... then again, maybe they've just gone away for the half term! ๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿคจ

18/02/2025 @18:45
RIP, Fitbit. No more obsessing over step counts, sleep quality & calorie deficits anymore ig ๐Ÿชฆ

18/02/2025 @19:10
[Lecture #2: Plot Part 1 โ€” Brandon Sanderson on Writing Science Fiction and Fantasy]
Watching these lectures is really making me muse deeply over the outlining of my novel and prompting me to really consider what revisions are required in my next draft ๐Ÿค” A novel is comprised of plot, setting, and characters; obviously I have all these taken care of (to a degree). However, deep diving into plot structure raises a few observations. A typical plot begins with promises, is followed by progress, and ends with payoff. The promises should cover tone, character arcs, and story arcs. The progress should have appropriate pacing, moving the reader toward the delivery of the promises you made at the outset (without too many distractions/subplots). And the payoff can either deliver on those promises, or hit the reader with a plot twist instead. Common plot twists include overdelivering through a plot expansion, substituting in an alternate promise delivery, or breaking your promises intentionally. I am mindful that some of my character arcs may lack payoff, and some of my payoffs likely do not have sufficiently clear promises, meaning they'll likely fall flat. I do also think that I need to add a prologue as a cold open to ensure the tone is correctly promised from the beginning... ๐Ÿคจ๐Ÿง I guess there is much work to be done... which also kinda makes me want to just put Lightfade aside and start on a new book entirely! ๐Ÿ’€๐Ÿ˜‚

18/02/2025 @21:18
Fleeting visit off Pete for a Nescafe Caramel on his way to see Anne-Marie โ˜•โ˜ฎ๏ธ

18/02/2025 @22:05
Couple of hours on God of War before bed I reckon ๐ŸŽฎโ˜•๐Ÿช

19/02/2025 @08:45
Good deed of the day; as I was cutting across the BP forecourt, an elderly bloke with a crutch was struggling to open his car door whilst carrying his Greggs order, so I held his coffee for him whilst he faffed about getting in ๐Ÿ˜โ˜•

19/02/2025 @09:14
Managed to get my Fitbit working again before work. Had a ballache trying to bluetooth pair it back to my phone when it's screen no longer works, but I managed. However, I get to work this morning and now notice that the battery has apparently dropped from 76% to 27% during my commute, so yeah. Perhaps not the success story I'd envisioned! ๐Ÿ”‹

19/02/2025 @13:13
[Watching Cobra Kai S06E07]
Yikes, some of this writing is utter cringe! ๐Ÿ’ฉ

19/02/2025 @18:45
Can't believe that upon arriving in Newcastle, the only place I can find that is open to grab something to eat hastily is Maccies! ๐Ÿ”๐ŸŸ

19/02/2025 @21:28
Been a great first attendance at Renegades โœ๐Ÿผ as I first entered the boozer, I bumped into Jase Gibbo from back at BK which was a real blast from the past! ๐Ÿคฏ Then after I had ordered a White Wolf Pale Ale and got situated in the back room with the rest of the group, I got chatting with Dave and Frazer who both seemed friendly and welcoming. The meeting itself was both interesting and insightful. Four of the group (Kim(?), Dave, Tim and Fraser) read out examples of their writing, and the rest of the group offered constructive feedback and critique. Some feedback was relatively obvious such as issues with consistency or proofreading faults (punctuation/grammar), whereas others included a deeper observation of historical accuracy, word choice, verbosity, POV's or correct tense. During the mid-session break I grabbed a pint of 'Touch Of Frost American Pale Ale' ๐Ÿบ and when it came time to depart for the day, I stuck around for a little while and had a chat with Duncan about the fantasy trilogy he's been working on ๐Ÿ“š Thoroughly enjoyed tonight and will certainly be back again next week! ๐Ÿ˜

19/02/2025 @22:38
After an admittedly tiring walk back from Newcastle, mostly spent messaging Bug, I swerved in the Green Star for a swift Black Sheep Ale before last orders ๐Ÿบ Also bumped into another familiar face, that being Watko who I've not seen in a few months since he stopped drinking down Forresters. Amusingly he was sat with Dave, Steve, and a couple other chaps having a chinwag... ironic after last time I was here, Dave was bitching that he couldn't enjoy the music because I was talking too much! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ™„

19/02/2025 @23:50
Finishing the night off by watching Don't Trust Hannah react to the Game of Thrones S8 finale with a few snacks before bed ๐Ÿ“บ๐Ÿซ๐Ÿช

20/02/2025 @08:37
I think someone has stolen next doors bin and I feel sort of responsible since I'm the one who put it out into the street for them... ๐Ÿฅด

20/02/2025 @12:12
You had one job...!! ๐Ÿ˜‚ A common trend when I agree to do freelance web design work is that the customer manages to mess up the domain/hosting payments and their package gets cancelled by the vendor! ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿผโ€โ™‚๏ธ

20/02/2025 @12:55
Today's good deed is trying to assist Sammie with the Post Malone O2 Priority pre-sale... which is frustrating AF! I still have PTSD from the Sabrina Carpenter pre-sale! Ticketmaster is a fucking shitshow! ๐ŸŽค๐ŸŽซ

20/02/2025 @16:30
Damn, RIP Josh Moynihan! ๐Ÿชฆ

20/02/2025 @19:35
[Lecture #3: Plot Part 2 โ€” Brandon Sanderson on Writing Science Fiction and Fantasy]
Can't lie, I'm having great fun lately using DALLยทE 2 to generate concept art of all the characters that feature in my novel. Even knowing I wholly intend to design them more accurately on Procreate at a later date, just seeing them visually represented for now hits different! ๐Ÿ˜

21/02/2025 @01:55
When I decided turn off the PS4 and pop across Green Star around 10pm, the intention was to just have a couple before they locked up... which I expected would be around 11pm. Alas, it's almost 2am and I've just got home after having 6 pints and a sambuca! On a school night! ๐Ÿบ๐Ÿฅด Why am I like this? ๐Ÿ˜‚ At least it's been a good night chatting with Watko, 'Music Dave', 'Barman Dave', 'Dave with the 11 grandkids', Aisha & her cousin, Irish Shaun, and 'Dave with the bad lungs'! ๐Ÿคฏ๐Ÿ˜‚

21/02/2025 @08:14
It's going to be a long day... ๐Ÿฅฑ ...with nobody but myself to blame! ๐Ÿซ 

21/02/2025 @10:02
"Starting in April 2025, customers with a typical Severn Trent unmetered bill for combined water and wastewater services will see an increase of around ยฃ11.75 per month." Are they taking the piss? My bill was ยฃ32 a month in 2021; this increase would mean my bill for this year will be ~ยฃ60 a month. So practically double what I was paying 4yrs ago... ๐Ÿคจ๐Ÿคฌ

21/02/2025 @15:17
Typically in my experience: Abusive men murder women. Abusive women make men murder themselves.

21/02/2025 @17:41
Think Lysh is looking forward to babysitting Tommy with me tomorrow night ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ˜

21/02/2025 @21:28
Lysh has hijacked Procreate off me, so I'm back to using AI for a bit. This time it's Gemini to generate visuals of settings and stuff from my novel. It's really feeling like it's all coming together now tbh! โœ๐Ÿผ๐ŸŽจ

22/02/2025 @00:32
Bug was curling up and dozing off on the sofa (after I'd asked her a few times recently if she was ready for bed and been told no), so I say c'mon let's get you upstairs now before you get too comfy and don't want to move. She doesn't respond, just lies there silently. I say c'mon now a little more forcefully and again, silence. So I place my hand on her shoulder and rock her... and that's it, she goes off on one about not liking being touched ๐Ÿซก So, I point out that if she hadn't ignored me, then I wouldn't have felt it necessary to check she wasn't actually asleep by touching her arm. "Oh, so just because I didn't reply means I'm ignoring you?" YES. 100%. That is literally the textbook definition, Lysh! Aaaaand off she goes, storming upstairs to slam her bedroom door as I call up after her to say goodnight! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ™ƒ

22/02/2025 @10:48
Lysh woke up at like half-8 and came downstairs to rewatch Arcane ๐Ÿ“บ๐Ÿ˜… I on the other hand, woke up a couple hours later! ๐Ÿ˜ด

22/02/2025 @11:15
Billy isn't coming again today cause he's still not been paid by my landlady... ๐Ÿฅด

22/02/2025 @12:45
One thing I will never understand about the younger generation, is how due to ADHD/hyperfixation etc., they can listen to the exact same audio loops on repeat for ages whilst editing videos or researching trends on socials... and not be driven mad! ๐Ÿ˜ตโ€๐Ÿ’ซ

22/02/2025 @16:42
Typical domestic duties & Minecraft with Bug is the agenda ๐Ÿงน๐Ÿงฝ๐Ÿงบ๐ŸŽฎ

22/02/2025 @22:45
Had a lovely night babysitting Thomas with Lysh whilst Sammie & Lance went the theatre ๐ŸŽญ He's so damn cute despite biting me, pulling my beard, and slobbering all over my leg! ๐Ÿ˜‚ He is obsessed with Dog of Wisdom (which is mental) and he also loves Miss Rachel ๐Ÿ“บ๐Ÿ˜… He's been an airplane, a rocketman, and a rapper ๐Ÿš€ I've changed his nappy, fed him some milk, and got him to sleep (without even needing white noise which is his usual thing). I'd say it's been a successful night of reminding myself how good at parenting I am ๐Ÿ‘ถ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿฅฐ

23/02/2025 @01:25
It's like half-1 in the morning and I'm still sat here on Gemini generating images of locations from my novel, Lightfade... ๐Ÿฅด๐Ÿ˜… Lysh had a shower at like 11pm after Tommy went home and then has been in her room ever since (aside from popping down in full Runa cosplay to learn how to fasten a tie, which she'd stolen out my wardrobe ๐Ÿคจ๐Ÿ˜‚)...

23/02/2025 @10:30
Up at 10:30 and pretty much straight onto Gemini, ChatGPT, and Minecraft! โœ๐Ÿผ๐ŸŽฎ

23/02/2025 @13:16
Lysh has ended up staying for the full weekend so Char opted not to visit which is kinda on me tbf. So, it's another day on the sofa with Bug playing Minecraft and listening to the Arcane OST it seems! ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ“บ๐ŸŽฎ

23/02/2025 @16:42
Lysh has just had me running around the shop in the rain to buy Sour Patch Kids & pizza ๐Ÿ•๐Ÿ˜…

23/02/2025 @17:15
Landlady has messaged to let me know the house is changing estate agent again ๐Ÿฅด trying talk her into just private letting direct to me instead ๐Ÿ‘€

23/02/2025 @21:41
When trying to sort a holiday is stressful, so you just go the pub instead ๐Ÿฅด

23/02/2025 @22:18
[Listening to Stereophonics - Local Boy in the Photograph]
"And all the friends lay down the flowers / Sit on the banks and drink for hours / Talk of the way they saw him last / Local boy in the photograph / Today / He'll always be 23"

23/02/2025 @23:46
Lol, mad when I'm barely in calorie deficit at 23:46 and I fancy a snack before bed... and I'm like, do I just say fuck it, or do I stay in deficit? Bahaha. I recall a time when it was this time of night and I was like, shall I get another three for a oner? Now I'm minging about whether to scran a pack of crisps or not! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿฅด

24/02/2025 @19:05
First time attending Andy's Man Club down the Vale ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿผโ˜• Being told "you've been my medicine tonight" at the end by a bloke going through a rough patch lowkey choked me up! ๐Ÿฅบ

24/02/2025 @23:52
Totally forgot that my passport expires in May! Fuck sake! I definitely need to get that sorted tomorrow - I'm supposed to be going Amsterdam in just over a month on a stag do! ๐Ÿ›‚๐ŸฆŒ

25/02/2025 @00:04
After a lot of back and forth with Sammie, we finally settle on a summer holiday that we like the look of... and boom! TUI goes down for maintenance midway through booking it! ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿฅด

25/02/2025 @08:46
Waking up to confirmation that Sammie has booked the holiday whilst I was sleeping is the one! ๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿฅฐ Discovering it's ยฃ1,300 cheaper than I thought... even fucking better!! ๐Ÿค‘๐Ÿ’ฏ

25/02/2025 @09:13
Right, so. I've booked in for a trim at Barnet's on lunch so that I don't look like an absolute scruff on my new passport for the next decade ๐Ÿ’ˆ I've also checked in the photo booth at the back of Potteries en route to work, and it's now ยฃ10 to get the photos done?! Are they high?!! I'll be doing my own, thanks! ๐Ÿฅด

25/02/2025 @21:03
Got home from work and worked on Lightfade for a bit โœ๐Ÿผ Watched a bit of YouTube and ate some beans on toast ๐Ÿ“บ๐Ÿž then had a little overdue catch up with Moz about Pokemon and health ๐Ÿ“ฑ๐Ÿฉบ And now I'm waiting for Pete to get here for a brewski โ˜• then the plan is to head down the Green Star for a brief beer - but genuinely, just a quick one! Nothing excessive, I've got stuff to do tomorrow & don't want to feel rough! ๐Ÿบ

26/02/2025 @01:02
Not too bad, just 3x Tyskie's after the pub and then back home for bed at 1am! ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ

26/02/2025 @13:55
Had to spend part of my lunch break going to WH Smiths to get this old passport sent off. What kind of shithousery is this, right - so, I'm paying for First Class Signed For delivery, which obviously means the recipient has to sign to say they've received it, right? So, riddle me this. The staff member takes the letter off me, tries post it through the letterbox thing they have, and says: "It will have to go as a large letter because it doesn't fit through." I'm like, hold on a minute, it's not being posted through a letterbox anyway, it's being signed for? They reply "yeah, but it still has to be charged as a large letter..." ๐Ÿ™„ Absolute piss take tbh! ๐Ÿ˜‚ Anyyyyway, we move. Now it's just squeaky bum time until the new one arrives, hopefully sooner rather than later! ๐Ÿ›‚

26/02/2025 @18:05
After last weeks fuckery when I couldn't find anywhere for a quick munch up 'Castle besides Maccies, I made the conscious decision this week to go prepared. I had a banana and a pack of Roysters to eat en route, then really fancied a Meat & Potato Pie as my main! ๐Ÿฅง Thankfully, the shop just by Basford Doctors sells them (even if the shopkeeper locked the door just as I tried to enter, and I had to knock on to get her to let me in! ๐Ÿ˜…)... Pie acquired! ๐Ÿ˜‹

26/02/2025 @18:45
Nice to have a brief catch up with Moz in Queens Gardens (featuring a cheeky PoGo trade!) before I headed around to Bridge St Ale House for RWG! ๐Ÿคณ๐Ÿผ

26/02/2025 @21:02
Another good couple hours with the Renegades! โœ๐Ÿผ This week we had readings from Barry (Troy), Nic (Portrait), Malcolm (Lisbon), and Fraser (Denneth). I'm really enjoying these sessions and hearing critique and feedback that I can incorporate into my own work. It's also nice feeling part of something exclusive. The venue is great, I'd never been Bridge Street Ale House until last week, but I adore the whole aesthetic and vibe here. Really warm and homely yet also very rustic and indie. Also helps that Phil behind the bar is such a nice bloke too. They switch out the hand pump ales regularly, so this week I had a Wild Bill Hiccup and then a Little Critters 5.5% Chameleon IPA ๐Ÿบ Looking forward to next week already - think I'll be coming here for the foreseeable as a member of Rens! ๐Ÿฅฐ

26/02/2025 @22:42
Had a walk back from Castle to Hanley Tesco Extra to grab some shopping. I forgot how different the vibe is late at night in supermarkets. I remember when they used to be 24hr (pre-Covid) and I'd come in the early hours sometimes, and be the only person in the store. Wild. It's a stark enough contrast at 22:30 compared to when I typically go straight after work; so much calmer and relaxed thanks to less people and queues. The only drawback was having to go through self-checkout with a trolley since there were no cashiers on the tills this late at night! ๐Ÿ›’๐Ÿ˜…

27/02/2025 @14:16
What?? Pfft! Shut up! Definitely wasn't me crying at the end of Cobra Kai, what you talking about?! Oof. Right in the feels! ๐Ÿฅบ๐Ÿ˜ญ

27/02/2025 @18:18
Finished work and popped round Spoons with Pete โ˜ฎ Couple scoops for me ๐Ÿป and unlimited coffee refills for him โ˜•

27/02/2025 @21:30
After Spoons we went Bon Pan for some scran. Whilst there I bumped into Matty Downs which was ironic considering I'd just been messaging his sister Lorna when we were in Spoons! ๐Ÿ˜‚ Then, I have utterly fucking decimated myself like usual... ๐Ÿ’€๐Ÿ˜ต I have no self restraint at this place, whack it all on the plate and go back for seconds, and thirds too... ๐Ÿ˜‚ we walked back home afterwards which will have helped it settle somewhat (and burned a tiny % of it back off) but make no mistake, definitely not in calorie deficit today! ๐Ÿšถ๐Ÿผโ€โ™‚๏ธ๐Ÿคฎ

27/02/2025 @23:12
[Watching Boardwalk Empire]
Started watching this, it's been on my watchlist for a while and there isn't an astronomical number of episodes to catch up on. I was trying to figure out where I recognised Jimmy from, when the penny dropped... Dawson's Creek! It's fucking Henry!

28/02/2025 @08:45
Some roadman type just walked past me on the phone, and I heard him say; "Bruv I'll bang all your mates, if you want?" Been wondering about it for the last 5-mins. What a bizarre thing to say! Who was he talking too? Still unsure whether it was a threat or an offer! ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ˜‚

28/02/2025 @10:54
"Weโ€™ve received your old passport." Good. Now send me my new one! ๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ

28/02/2025 @15:43
Reddit confused me with something about having 3x star signs: sun, moon, and rising... โ˜€๏ธ๐ŸŒ› Now I've spent far too long reading into Astrology and looking into my Astrological Birth Chart! ๐Ÿ˜ตโ€๐Ÿ’ซ๐Ÿ˜…

28/02/2025 @20:36
Another Friday night with Lysh involving The Hollow on Netflix ๐Ÿ“บ Tik-Tok binges ๐Ÿคณ๐Ÿผ late night Minecraft ๐ŸŽฎ and using AI to visually represent Lightfade! โœ๐Ÿผ

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