An overview of opinions and observations for the month.
01/01/2025 @19:30
Kicked the new year off right with an all you can eat full english breakfast buffet at Flambo Jambo 🥓☕ then spent a good few hours in Splash Landings with Bug 💛 went on everything possible including the Lazy River, Master Blaster, Rush & Rampage, the jacuzzi... and of course, plenty of goes on the Flash Floods outside (even in the rain!) 🏊🏼🛝 grabbed some overpriced lunch from the cafe 🍟🥤 staff had told us Extraordinary Golf was flooded but may be open later, but Lysh said she wasn't that arsed so we just booked a £44 taxi back home - got to love time and a half for New Years Day... 💀 got back in mid-afternoon then just chilled together and watched the first couple episodes of Squid Game S2 together (rewatch for myself) whilst Bug ate candyfloss with a knife and fork 🤣 Lysh was picked up at 6pm and ever since I've been sorting out new journalling & tracking out for the new year 😅 ate a nice healthy tea (gotta get that broccoli quota 🥦🥴) and had a read of one of my new books, 'F*ck Whales' 🤣📚
Kicked the new year off right with an all you can eat full english breakfast buffet at Flambo Jambo 🥓☕ then spent a good few hours in Splash Landings with Bug 💛 went on everything possible including the Lazy River, Master Blaster, Rush & Rampage, the jacuzzi... and of course, plenty of goes on the Flash Floods outside (even in the rain!) 🏊🏼🛝 grabbed some overpriced lunch from the cafe 🍟🥤 staff had told us Extraordinary Golf was flooded but may be open later, but Lysh said she wasn't that arsed so we just booked a £44 taxi back home - got to love time and a half for New Years Day... 💀 got back in mid-afternoon then just chilled together and watched the first couple episodes of Squid Game S2 together (rewatch for myself) whilst Bug ate candyfloss with a knife and fork 🤣 Lysh was picked up at 6pm and ever since I've been sorting out new journalling & tracking out for the new year 😅 ate a nice healthy tea (gotta get that broccoli quota 🥦🥴) and had a read of one of my new books, 'F*ck Whales' 🤣📚
02/01/2025 @09:14
So far this year, I've got 100% punctuality at work 💪🏼💯
So far this year, I've got 100% punctuality at work 💪🏼💯
02/01/2025 @19:45
Nipped Tesco after work & had a little chat with my Mum 🛒 then got home, did the laundry & made myself some tea (broccoli quota ✅) and now I'm going relax for the night 😌 It's only day 2 of Dry January and I already want some alcohol! 🍺😩
Nipped Tesco after work & had a little chat with my Mum 🛒 then got home, did the laundry & made myself some tea (broccoli quota ✅) and now I'm going relax for the night 😌 It's only day 2 of Dry January and I already want some alcohol! 🍺😩
02/01/2025 @23:35
Absolutely loving watching 'Don't Trust Hannah' reacting to all of Game of Thrones, she is so fucking animated! 😂 Already halfway through S2, keeping me amused whilst I'm also playing Valhalla! 🐉🎮
Absolutely loving watching 'Don't Trust Hannah' reacting to all of Game of Thrones, she is so fucking animated! 😂 Already halfway through S2, keeping me amused whilst I'm also playing Valhalla! 🐉🎮
03/01/2025 @11:40
"I (f40) am due in 3 weeks. My husband (m36) said that he didn't want me to go back to work afterwards. I was shocked because this is something he never have talked about before. But he said that circumstances changed and if it was about money, he will pay me my salary. Now I started to think about the gym he built in our basement. He said that now I didn't have to go to my gym because I have one here. He makes all grocery shopping too or he asks me to make it delivered."
I see a lot of responses about "he is trying to isolate you" or "he wants to control you", "red flag" so "run, leave, now, yesterday!" but I cannot help but think that's all very knee-jerk and overly dramatic from people online who do not have the full context. There is so much more nuance to stuff like this. It's not as cut and paste as they seem to be making it. What country do you live in - what's it like there? Do people carry guns? Does your neighbourhood have a high crime rate? Have you ever been attacked or involved in an accident nearby? Has any of your husbands immediate family been involved in anything of that nature? How long have you been together, lived together, been married? Was this birth planned? Have you had issues with conceiving before - any miscarriages/stillbirths? Have you had a good marriage up until now? Any infidelity on either side? Do you have healthy relationships with immediate/extended family? Do you have a good support network? Any history of abuse from parents on either side of the relationship? You get my point, I hope. There is so much more information needed to have a meaningful opinion on this. The fact is, there must be a reason why he is acting this way. You married him; you obviously know him and his personality. If this is out of character then you'd know better than us. People bee-lining for worst case scenarios and panic stations are doing a disservice to your situation. You are better positioned than any of us to understand your husband; and failing that, without any compromise forthcoming, couples counselling with a proper therapist would be my recommendation. But then, I believe in the sanctity of marriage, and the value of not raising a child in a broken family. If this is your husbands first child, it could be something as innocuous as him being thoroughly terrified of the world his child is being brought into; I went through that myself. Convinced my kid would be kidnapped, or my partner would be involved in a car accident with a drunk driver etc. Hell, I was that terrified of cot death that I would end up waking my baby up to check they hadn't died in their sleep! Maybe your husband is just super worried about your safety, your newborns safety? Maybe he is anxious about anything happening to either of you and in his mind, the easiest way to mitigate this fear is by wrapping you both in cotton wool? If you're at home, you're a lot more likely to be safe. And if you're not working, you can look after your child and keep them safe too. He is willing to carry the entire financial burden to protect you, to keep you and his child safe. If anything happens to you, his wife, the mother of his child whom he loves - what does his future look like? It could honestly be something as innocent as that. He could simply be terrified of the uncertainty and vulnerability that comes with parenthood. We currently talk a lot about men's mental health, yet it is readily dismissed. Men have emotions too - and we stress, get anxious, worry about the future. Most of us care about our kids (and wives) too, believe it or not. Is it healthy to be so anxious - obviously not - but I'm trying to make the point that this current behaviour is not necessarily a reason to commit to a future of being a 40-year old single mother... Maybe he has, for no apparent reason, just become a raging control freak overnight who wants to isolate you, potentially destroy his marriage, and curtail any future involvement in his newborns life... or maybe, there is something a bit more logical and human behind his actions. Speak to him, ask him why he is acting this way. Give him the benefit of the doubt; he is your husband and the father of your unborn child after all.
"I (f40) am due in 3 weeks. My husband (m36) said that he didn't want me to go back to work afterwards. I was shocked because this is something he never have talked about before. But he said that circumstances changed and if it was about money, he will pay me my salary. Now I started to think about the gym he built in our basement. He said that now I didn't have to go to my gym because I have one here. He makes all grocery shopping too or he asks me to make it delivered."
I see a lot of responses about "he is trying to isolate you" or "he wants to control you", "red flag" so "run, leave, now, yesterday!" but I cannot help but think that's all very knee-jerk and overly dramatic from people online who do not have the full context. There is so much more nuance to stuff like this. It's not as cut and paste as they seem to be making it. What country do you live in - what's it like there? Do people carry guns? Does your neighbourhood have a high crime rate? Have you ever been attacked or involved in an accident nearby? Has any of your husbands immediate family been involved in anything of that nature? How long have you been together, lived together, been married? Was this birth planned? Have you had issues with conceiving before - any miscarriages/stillbirths? Have you had a good marriage up until now? Any infidelity on either side? Do you have healthy relationships with immediate/extended family? Do you have a good support network? Any history of abuse from parents on either side of the relationship? You get my point, I hope. There is so much more information needed to have a meaningful opinion on this. The fact is, there must be a reason why he is acting this way. You married him; you obviously know him and his personality. If this is out of character then you'd know better than us. People bee-lining for worst case scenarios and panic stations are doing a disservice to your situation. You are better positioned than any of us to understand your husband; and failing that, without any compromise forthcoming, couples counselling with a proper therapist would be my recommendation. But then, I believe in the sanctity of marriage, and the value of not raising a child in a broken family. If this is your husbands first child, it could be something as innocuous as him being thoroughly terrified of the world his child is being brought into; I went through that myself. Convinced my kid would be kidnapped, or my partner would be involved in a car accident with a drunk driver etc. Hell, I was that terrified of cot death that I would end up waking my baby up to check they hadn't died in their sleep! Maybe your husband is just super worried about your safety, your newborns safety? Maybe he is anxious about anything happening to either of you and in his mind, the easiest way to mitigate this fear is by wrapping you both in cotton wool? If you're at home, you're a lot more likely to be safe. And if you're not working, you can look after your child and keep them safe too. He is willing to carry the entire financial burden to protect you, to keep you and his child safe. If anything happens to you, his wife, the mother of his child whom he loves - what does his future look like? It could honestly be something as innocent as that. He could simply be terrified of the uncertainty and vulnerability that comes with parenthood. We currently talk a lot about men's mental health, yet it is readily dismissed. Men have emotions too - and we stress, get anxious, worry about the future. Most of us care about our kids (and wives) too, believe it or not. Is it healthy to be so anxious - obviously not - but I'm trying to make the point that this current behaviour is not necessarily a reason to commit to a future of being a 40-year old single mother... Maybe he has, for no apparent reason, just become a raging control freak overnight who wants to isolate you, potentially destroy his marriage, and curtail any future involvement in his newborns life... or maybe, there is something a bit more logical and human behind his actions. Speak to him, ask him why he is acting this way. Give him the benefit of the doubt; he is your husband and the father of your unborn child after all.
03/01/2025 @12:00
"I overheard my husband teaching my 9 y/o son how to private browse online"
For context, you should also mention that your 9 y/o son has "an online gf who is 12 y/o", as that seems very relevant here when you're discussing hiding online activity. First of all, your concern is very much justified. It's not the solution to the primary issue (your husband's poor guidance), but private browsing is kind of a misnomer - whatever your son goes on can all be revealed with a sufficient software solution. All 'private browsing' does, is not log the activity in the actual browser - but the activity is still recorded at router & ISP level. The data is still being sent, obviously, so it can still be logged and reviewed for your peace of mind. Regarding the main issue, that of your husband's parenting style - you need to address that directly with him. Nobody here can really do anything besides affirm that you're right to be frustrated. Being their parent should always come before being their friend.
"I overheard my husband teaching my 9 y/o son how to private browse online"
For context, you should also mention that your 9 y/o son has "an online gf who is 12 y/o", as that seems very relevant here when you're discussing hiding online activity. First of all, your concern is very much justified. It's not the solution to the primary issue (your husband's poor guidance), but private browsing is kind of a misnomer - whatever your son goes on can all be revealed with a sufficient software solution. All 'private browsing' does, is not log the activity in the actual browser - but the activity is still recorded at router & ISP level. The data is still being sent, obviously, so it can still be logged and reviewed for your peace of mind. Regarding the main issue, that of your husband's parenting style - you need to address that directly with him. Nobody here can really do anything besides affirm that you're right to be frustrated. Being their parent should always come before being their friend.
03/01/2025 @12:55
Nice little catch up with Stay when she swung by my work to grab Rich's birthday card & say hi! 🥰🎂
Nice little catch up with Stay when she swung by my work to grab Rich's birthday card & say hi! 🥰🎂
03/01/2025 @16:55
Stupidly productive day at work 💯 which is definitely good since I have such a dumb amount of work on! Annual tasks, monthly tasks, daily tasks, projects, support tickets... it's all coalescing right now into a laundry list of new year fuckery! 💀😅
Stupidly productive day at work 💯 which is definitely good since I have such a dumb amount of work on! Annual tasks, monthly tasks, daily tasks, projects, support tickets... it's all coalescing right now into a laundry list of new year fuckery! 💀😅
03/01/2025 @19:32
It's official, Lysh is obsessed with School Bus Graveyard. And now I'm going to have to familiarise myself with it, so I can actually partake in conversations with her about it 🫡😂
It's official, Lysh is obsessed with School Bus Graveyard. And now I'm going to have to familiarise myself with it, so I can actually partake in conversations with her about it 🫡😂
04/01/2025 @12:50
Good to see Moz this morning when he popped around to drop off Lysh's belated Xmas presents 🤗🎁 had a nice catch up and played some Pokemon together 🤳🏼😁
Good to see Moz this morning when he popped around to drop off Lysh's belated Xmas presents 🤗🎁 had a nice catch up and played some Pokemon together 🤳🏼😁
04/01/2025 @13:25
"Is it bad if we don’t get our baby girl any presents for her 1st birthday?"
Societal pressure and convention, in the age of competitive parenting, exacerbated by social media, is so tiresome. Your child will not remember, or even have any concept of what a 1st birthday is. No presents or a hundred presents. For your child, I promise it's wholly irrelevant. How many presents did you get for your first birthday? Yeah, I have no idea for myself, either. If you're worried about being judged by family/friends (which would be the only people who would even know unless you broadcast it) then perhaps your "guilt" is less "guilt" and more an unhealthy sense of shame caused by the weight of expectation from your immediate circle/society in general? We've normalised raising spoiled, materialistic, and entitled offspring via setting unrealistic precedents for overspending as an act of love. We've also normalised having zero privacy and letting everyone we know have an opinion on our choices, and influence how we live our lives. You're her parent - your choices whilst being a parent, as long as they are lawful, are nothing to do with anyone else. Presence > presents.
"Is it bad if we don’t get our baby girl any presents for her 1st birthday?"
Societal pressure and convention, in the age of competitive parenting, exacerbated by social media, is so tiresome. Your child will not remember, or even have any concept of what a 1st birthday is. No presents or a hundred presents. For your child, I promise it's wholly irrelevant. How many presents did you get for your first birthday? Yeah, I have no idea for myself, either. If you're worried about being judged by family/friends (which would be the only people who would even know unless you broadcast it) then perhaps your "guilt" is less "guilt" and more an unhealthy sense of shame caused by the weight of expectation from your immediate circle/society in general? We've normalised raising spoiled, materialistic, and entitled offspring via setting unrealistic precedents for overspending as an act of love. We've also normalised having zero privacy and letting everyone we know have an opinion on our choices, and influence how we live our lives. You're her parent - your choices whilst being a parent, as long as they are lawful, are nothing to do with anyone else. Presence > presents.
04/01/2025 @23:58
Didn't have my lunch until almost 3pm after I'd put Lysh her new string lights up in her room 🙃🤗 and then since then, I've barely moved off the sofa except to make homemade pizza for tea 🍕 Lysh has racked up over 10hrs on Tik-Tok 🤳 and I've finished reading SBG then probably got a good 5hrs on Assassins Creed Valhalla afterwards 🎮 not even arsed, sofa-rotting ftw! 💯
Didn't have my lunch until almost 3pm after I'd put Lysh her new string lights up in her room 🙃🤗 and then since then, I've barely moved off the sofa except to make homemade pizza for tea 🍕 Lysh has racked up over 10hrs on Tik-Tok 🤳 and I've finished reading SBG then probably got a good 5hrs on Assassins Creed Valhalla afterwards 🎮 not even arsed, sofa-rotting ftw! 💯
05/01/2025 @10:45
Woke up at nearly 11am 😪 lay in bed playing on my phone, secretly hoping the snow had fucked off because last night before we went bed, Lysh was saying she wanted go out down the park in it today if it's still here... and I thoroughly can't be arsed tbf 🌨️🙈 crawled out of bed, looked out the window... *sigh* snow everywhere still lol, fuck. Pop into Lysh's room & say about the snow, and much to my delight she say's that she has changed her mind & doesn't want go out in it after all because she cba 🙌🏼 I go downstairs and make a brew, pop back up to speak to Lysh who is still in bed, and manage to spill my coffee all over her bedroom floor... 🥴☕
Woke up at nearly 11am 😪 lay in bed playing on my phone, secretly hoping the snow had fucked off because last night before we went bed, Lysh was saying she wanted go out down the park in it today if it's still here... and I thoroughly can't be arsed tbf 🌨️🙈 crawled out of bed, looked out the window... *sigh* snow everywhere still lol, fuck. Pop into Lysh's room & say about the snow, and much to my delight she say's that she has changed her mind & doesn't want go out in it after all because she cba 🙌🏼 I go downstairs and make a brew, pop back up to speak to Lysh who is still in bed, and manage to spill my coffee all over her bedroom floor... 🥴☕
05/01/2025 @12:15
Damn. I guess 2025's road to health is starting off unexpectedly heavier than anticipated... 😐 Currently weighing in at 15st, apparently. Guess my "fuck it, it's xmas" attitude must have been extra this year... or started earlier with the prologue of "fuck it, I'm on holiday" 😂
Damn. I guess 2025's road to health is starting off unexpectedly heavier than anticipated... 😐 Currently weighing in at 15st, apparently. Guess my "fuck it, it's xmas" attitude must have been extra this year... or started earlier with the prologue of "fuck it, I'm on holiday" 😂
05/01/2025 @18:23
Spent pretty much all afternoon playing Bloxburg with Lysh (instead of going out in the snow) 🎮🤣 honestly feels like ages since we've proper played on Roblox together so really enjoyed it 😁🥰
Spent pretty much all afternoon playing Bloxburg with Lysh (instead of going out in the snow) 🎮🤣 honestly feels like ages since we've proper played on Roblox together so really enjoyed it 😁🥰
06/01/2025 @00:21
I have spent the last 6hrs playing Valhalla & watching Don't Trust Hannah reacting to GoT S3... lmao, goddamnit Dry Jan... 😂🎮
I have spent the last 6hrs playing Valhalla & watching Don't Trust Hannah reacting to GoT S3... lmao, goddamnit Dry Jan... 😂🎮
06/01/2025 @09:10
In spite of the snow, I've still made it to work on time. 3/3... 🌨️⏰
In spite of the snow, I've still made it to work on time. 3/3... 🌨️⏰
06/01/2025 @12:45
And with the acquisition of 'Small Gods', I now have the entire Discworld collection in paperback! 🙌🏼🤓
And with the acquisition of 'Small Gods', I now have the entire Discworld collection in paperback! 🙌🏼🤓
06/01/2025 @14:22
[Watching 3 Body Problem]
Fuck PSVR, Oculus & Quest - I want to play VR with one of these headsets! 🤯
[Watching 3 Body Problem]
Fuck PSVR, Oculus & Quest - I want to play VR with one of these headsets! 🤯
06/01/2025 @19:46
The imposter syndrome is strong today! 🥸 Fucking PAS-127412! Gotta love Microsoft routine updates! Late home from work and going to be an early start tomorrow too I reckon! Then get a call off Sammie asking for advice because they've had a bump in Lance's car whilst up Manc this evening! 🚗 Ugh, I have wanted to quit Dry Jan like 4x already! 😂💀
The imposter syndrome is strong today! 🥸 Fucking PAS-127412! Gotta love Microsoft routine updates! Late home from work and going to be an early start tomorrow too I reckon! Then get a call off Sammie asking for advice because they've had a bump in Lance's car whilst up Manc this evening! 🚗 Ugh, I have wanted to quit Dry Jan like 4x already! 😂💀
06/01/2025 @23:55
Little workout at home to shake the cobwebs off & ease back into not being a lazy fuck lmao 🕸 then resumed with a few hours of being a lazy fuck by sitting on my ass with the Valhalla & DTH|GoT S4 combo again 🎮📺😂
Little workout at home to shake the cobwebs off & ease back into not being a lazy fuck lmao 🕸 then resumed with a few hours of being a lazy fuck by sitting on my ass with the Valhalla & DTH|GoT S4 combo again 🎮📺😂
07/01/2025 @10:14
Up bright and early, sorted myself out hastily and made tracks to work through this snow 🌨️ en route I was liaising with external tech support to resolve this #127412 ticket that arose last night & managed to make some headway. Arrived on prem early and continued the investigation with the assistance of EF & CD, and thankfully had it all resolved by 10:15. Right, now where's the coffee! 🥴☕
Up bright and early, sorted myself out hastily and made tracks to work through this snow 🌨️ en route I was liaising with external tech support to resolve this #127412 ticket that arose last night & managed to make some headway. Arrived on prem early and continued the investigation with the assistance of EF & CD, and thankfully had it all resolved by 10:15. Right, now where's the coffee! 🥴☕
07/01/2025 @10:35
"Just how rough are your first drafts?"
My first draft is ~96,000 words and I honestly feel like it could be (self) published in it's current format and be acceptable to readers. If I were to die for example, and a relative released it posthumously on my behalf. It is, for all intents and purposes, a complete story. That said, I also know that I have no intention of publishing it until I've polished it up considerably.
"Just how rough are your first drafts?"
My first draft is ~96,000 words and I honestly feel like it could be (self) published in it's current format and be acceptable to readers. If I were to die for example, and a relative released it posthumously on my behalf. It is, for all intents and purposes, a complete story. That said, I also know that I have no intention of publishing it until I've polished it up considerably.
07/01/2025 @10:37
"Will I Miss Out By Not Visiting Reykjavík?"
Reykjavik is a beautiful city. That said, it's still just a city: a few notable landmarks & architecture scattered amidst businesses and residences. Just like hundreds of other cities all over the world that blur together in my memories. Prioritise nature.
"Will I Miss Out By Not Visiting Reykjavík?"
Reykjavik is a beautiful city. That said, it's still just a city: a few notable landmarks & architecture scattered amidst businesses and residences. Just like hundreds of other cities all over the world that blur together in my memories. Prioritise nature.
07/01/2025 @17:38
The weather today has been so bipolar! 🥴 The snow has been consistent, but one hour it's bright blue skies, and the next it's sleeting down! And naturally, now it's home time it's really kicking off a storm for me to walk home in! 🌨
The weather today has been so bipolar! 🥴 The snow has been consistent, but one hour it's bright blue skies, and the next it's sleeting down! And naturally, now it's home time it's really kicking off a storm for me to walk home in! 🌨
07/01/2025 @23:45
Simple pleasures. Another night of Valhalla & DTH|GoT S5 🎮📺
Simple pleasures. Another night of Valhalla & DTH|GoT S5 🎮📺
08/01/2025 @00:15
[Playing Assassin's Creed Valhalla]
Environment is beautiful. Combat is reasonable. Story is passable (so far). Collectibles seem excessive. I've glitched inside a wall at one point and had to Fast Travel to get back out. The fact that not all Synchronisation points have Leap of Faith/Swan Dive opportunities is annoying; died/almost died a few times because I've tried to swan dive but just leaped to my death as there is no haystack to be seen. Still enjoying for the most part and feel like I've only just begun to make a dent in the content.
[Playing Assassin's Creed Valhalla]
Environment is beautiful. Combat is reasonable. Story is passable (so far). Collectibles seem excessive. I've glitched inside a wall at one point and had to Fast Travel to get back out. The fact that not all Synchronisation points have Leap of Faith/Swan Dive opportunities is annoying; died/almost died a few times because I've tried to swan dive but just leaped to my death as there is no haystack to be seen. Still enjoying for the most part and feel like I've only just begun to make a dent in the content.
08/01/2025 @10:00
"Is this normal for a 9/10 year old girl?? I don’t know what to do. Parenting is hard."
I have found the exact same with my daughter. I'm terrible for wanting to always "fix" everything, or to take over and just resolve issues - it's in my nature. It wasn't easy to accept that my daughter is not looking for that from me anymore, she doesn't need me to be the hero every time. She simply wants someone to vent to, someone to listen whilst she figures it out for herself.
"Is this normal for a 9/10 year old girl?? I don’t know what to do. Parenting is hard."
I have found the exact same with my daughter. I'm terrible for wanting to always "fix" everything, or to take over and just resolve issues - it's in my nature. It wasn't easy to accept that my daughter is not looking for that from me anymore, she doesn't need me to be the hero every time. She simply wants someone to vent to, someone to listen whilst she figures it out for herself.
08/01/2025 @10:01
"I think as parents who are living in an age where we’re soo mental health aware and our children are soo good at expressing their feelings, we sometimes feel the need to make the bad feelings go away."
Mentioned this to my daughter previously and she agreed, even at the young age of 12. It's seen as trendy these days to have a mental health label. It's romanticised and promoted by social media; suddenly everyone I know needs therapy and a diagnosis. It's either anxiety, depression, ADHD... hell, it even feels like autism is in vogue at times. It reminds me a little bit of how gender and sexuality labels were all the rage a year or two ago at my kids school. She came home declaring she was a non-binary, bisexual, demi-girl and that all the other kids in her classes were also experimenting with new gender identities and pronouns etc. Now it seems all the kids label themselves as having depression, anxiety and the like, without really understanding what it means. Try telling a kid that "being sad" isn't the same as "being depressed".
"I think as parents who are living in an age where we’re soo mental health aware and our children are soo good at expressing their feelings, we sometimes feel the need to make the bad feelings go away."
Mentioned this to my daughter previously and she agreed, even at the young age of 12. It's seen as trendy these days to have a mental health label. It's romanticised and promoted by social media; suddenly everyone I know needs therapy and a diagnosis. It's either anxiety, depression, ADHD... hell, it even feels like autism is in vogue at times. It reminds me a little bit of how gender and sexuality labels were all the rage a year or two ago at my kids school. She came home declaring she was a non-binary, bisexual, demi-girl and that all the other kids in her classes were also experimenting with new gender identities and pronouns etc. Now it seems all the kids label themselves as having depression, anxiety and the like, without really understanding what it means. Try telling a kid that "being sad" isn't the same as "being depressed".
08/01/2025 @15:01
[Watching 3 Body Problem]
"Be careful with what you know; that's where your troubles begin."
[Watching 3 Body Problem]
"Be careful with what you know; that's where your troubles begin."
08/01/2025 @18:55
"If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself." Life is not a competition. I really do get the impression that people who make everything a competition are really insecure and in need of constant validation and affirmation. "Do you love me now, Dad!? Am I good enough yet!?" Enjoy your own achievements but realise they have nothing to do with anybody else. You can celebrate your successes in silence - you shouldn't need everyone else to pat you on the back and tell you good job. Stop celebrating all these imaginary victories over other people who aren't even competing with you; it's tiresome 🥱
"If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself." Life is not a competition. I really do get the impression that people who make everything a competition are really insecure and in need of constant validation and affirmation. "Do you love me now, Dad!? Am I good enough yet!?" Enjoy your own achievements but realise they have nothing to do with anybody else. You can celebrate your successes in silence - you shouldn't need everyone else to pat you on the back and tell you good job. Stop celebrating all these imaginary victories over other people who aren't even competing with you; it's tiresome 🥱
08/01/2025 @23:50
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09/01/2025 @09:02
The ice is utterly treacherous this morning. Almost thrown my spine out of alignment a couple of times whilst walking to work. Should have put my microspikes on! 🧊🥾
The ice is utterly treacherous this morning. Almost thrown my spine out of alignment a couple of times whilst walking to work. Should have put my microspikes on! 🧊🥾
09/01/2025 @14:31
I am beyond fed up with YouTube showing me the exact same irrelevant adverts 🥴 For how much data Google hold about me, they should be able to target market me better by now... fuck 😩 All I get lately is Juniper and BetterHelp... turns out Google thinks I'm fat & mental! 🤰🏼🧠😂
I am beyond fed up with YouTube showing me the exact same irrelevant adverts 🥴 For how much data Google hold about me, they should be able to target market me better by now... fuck 😩 All I get lately is Juniper and BetterHelp... turns out Google thinks I'm fat & mental! 🤰🏼🧠😂
09/01/2025 @23:42
Dry January is easier with a consistent routine... 🍵🎮📺
Dry January is easier with a consistent routine... 🍵🎮📺
10/01/2025 @09:11
It's a glorious peaceful morning, hazy winter sunshine falling across pristine snow covered nature, the sound of cheerful birdsong underscored by the wind whispering softly. I wander through this picturesque wonderland, safely in my microspikes, and toasty bundled in layers of clothing 😍 I reach work and head inside, at total peace with the world and everything in it... 😌 It's -2°C. Indoors. Inside the building. What the fuck? The heating is off? 🥶 And suddenly I am no longer at peace! 😂
It's a glorious peaceful morning, hazy winter sunshine falling across pristine snow covered nature, the sound of cheerful birdsong underscored by the wind whispering softly. I wander through this picturesque wonderland, safely in my microspikes, and toasty bundled in layers of clothing 😍 I reach work and head inside, at total peace with the world and everything in it... 😌 It's -2°C. Indoors. Inside the building. What the fuck? The heating is off? 🥶 And suddenly I am no longer at peace! 😂
10/01/2025 @14:38
[Watching 3 Body Problem]
As the credits roll on episode 7, I realise with concern that the directors of this show are fucking Benioff and Weiss. After their shithouse butchery with the final season of Game of Thrones, I'm half tempted to just abandon this series already 🥴📺
[Watching 3 Body Problem]
As the credits roll on episode 7, I realise with concern that the directors of this show are fucking Benioff and Weiss. After their shithouse butchery with the final season of Game of Thrones, I'm half tempted to just abandon this series already 🥴📺
10/01/2025 @16:45
Reddit is wild. Most of the users sound fucking hysterical 🤯 Almost every post includes lunatics encouraging divorce over trivial stuff, or recommending therapy for any minor parenting concern, or obsessively proposing that males are sexual predators/pedophiles. Mad.
Reddit is wild. Most of the users sound fucking hysterical 🤯 Almost every post includes lunatics encouraging divorce over trivial stuff, or recommending therapy for any minor parenting concern, or obsessively proposing that males are sexual predators/pedophiles. Mad.
10/01/2025 @20:45
"BANG BANG BANG! I'm a legend. Thanos! I don't know what the fuck are you talking about. I like you! You're my beauty flower! Welcome back my friends! Skrrrt! O-Gang, let's go!" Fucking Thanoscore is so cringe!! 🍴😂
"BANG BANG BANG! I'm a legend. Thanos! I don't know what the fuck are you talking about. I like you! You're my beauty flower! Welcome back my friends! Skrrrt! O-Gang, let's go!" Fucking Thanoscore is so cringe!! 🍴😂
10/01/2025 @23:42
Listening to music ("Fine" by Lemon Demon is the one tonight!) & having a dance around the living room with Bug always makes me happy! ☺️ ...and exhausted these days too! 🤣💛
Listening to music ("Fine" by Lemon Demon is the one tonight!) & having a dance around the living room with Bug always makes me happy! ☺️ ...and exhausted these days too! 🤣💛
11/01/2025 @11:48
11:48am. I have just woke up at 11:48am. What, the actual 🤯 Naturally, the first thing I can hear is next door's kid crying and her Dad yelling "go away Bella" at her... 💁🏼♂️
11:48am. I have just woke up at 11:48am. What, the actual 🤯 Naturally, the first thing I can hear is next door's kid crying and her Dad yelling "go away Bella" at her... 💁🏼♂️
11/01/2025 @13:15
Finished the TV Girl canvas finally! 😂🖐🏼💛
Finished the TV Girl canvas finally! 😂🖐🏼💛
11/01/2025 @22:50
[Watching John Wick: Chapter 4]
Some of the cinematography in this film is diabolical. Dan Laustsen is a fucking menace. I was only expecting to see Keanu Reeves absolutely one-man-army his way through hundreds of bad guys, (which I totally did get that too), but some of these shots are fucking magnificent! 🎬
[Watching John Wick: Chapter 4]
Some of the cinematography in this film is diabolical. Dan Laustsen is a fucking menace. I was only expecting to see Keanu Reeves absolutely one-man-army his way through hundreds of bad guys, (which I totally did get that too), but some of these shots are fucking magnificent! 🎬
12/01/2025 @01:46
[Playing Assassin's Creed Valhalla]
It's nigh on 2am & I'm now like 55hrs into Valhalla. Really enjoying it, though there is waaay too much bloat which is a completionist's worst nightmare! I should probably go get some sleep! 😂🎮
[Playing Assassin's Creed Valhalla]
It's nigh on 2am & I'm now like 55hrs into Valhalla. Really enjoying it, though there is waaay too much bloat which is a completionist's worst nightmare! I should probably go get some sleep! 😂🎮
12/01/2025 @14:10
[Playing Assassin's Creed Valhalla]
"There is always one unbreakable bond. Children, they bewilder you. They can cause you so much worry, fill you with joy. Even stop your heart. And if you're lucky, they replace you."
[Playing Assassin's Creed Valhalla]
"There is always one unbreakable bond. Children, they bewilder you. They can cause you so much worry, fill you with joy. Even stop your heart. And if you're lucky, they replace you."
12/01/2025 @19:45
[Playing Assassin's Creed Valhalla]
Ivarr has been insufferable, so no, you aren't having your axe. Enjoy Helheim.
[Playing Assassin's Creed Valhalla]
Ivarr has been insufferable, so no, you aren't having your axe. Enjoy Helheim.
12/01/2025 @23:09
[Playing Assassin's Creed Valhalla]
I actually feel a little bad for Dag, he was just misguided and deathly loyal to Sigurd. You can have your axe, old friend. May the great halls of Valhalla welcome you.
[Playing Assassin's Creed Valhalla]
I actually feel a little bad for Dag, he was just misguided and deathly loyal to Sigurd. You can have your axe, old friend. May the great halls of Valhalla welcome you.
13/01/2025 @00:15
Woke up, sorted out some SSL stuff for work, then ascertained Charlie wouldn't be visiting due to the weather 🧊 Had a shower and some lunch out the way, then whacked on the Playstation. I know how to make the most of my free time! 😂 I then proceeded to hammer AC Valhalla for 8hrs whilst binging the entire S6 of 'Car Masters: Rust to Riches' before pausing temporarily to make myself some tea, then boxed off another 4hrs on it. Legitimately spend about 12hrs gaming today! 🎮 And you may think that was a massive waste of my time, but it was really enjoyable and just what I needed to unwind and destress, so don't worry yourself about it 😉 Off to bed feeling really content. Peace in simplicity! ✌🏼
Woke up, sorted out some SSL stuff for work, then ascertained Charlie wouldn't be visiting due to the weather 🧊 Had a shower and some lunch out the way, then whacked on the Playstation. I know how to make the most of my free time! 😂 I then proceeded to hammer AC Valhalla for 8hrs whilst binging the entire S6 of 'Car Masters: Rust to Riches' before pausing temporarily to make myself some tea, then boxed off another 4hrs on it. Legitimately spend about 12hrs gaming today! 🎮 And you may think that was a massive waste of my time, but it was really enjoyable and just what I needed to unwind and destress, so don't worry yourself about it 😉 Off to bed feeling really content. Peace in simplicity! ✌🏼
13/01/2025 @09:11
The novelty of this ice has worn off; at least I'm getting my money's worth out of these spikes! 🥾🧊
The novelty of this ice has worn off; at least I'm getting my money's worth out of these spikes! 🥾🧊
13/01/2025 @16:32
Yesterday I had to deal with this SSL cert expiry despite being the weekend, then today I have the fun of a franking toner leak to contend with... 🥴 The imprint was only half printing; removed the cartridge from the carriage and ran a wiper process, and cleaned the heads. And now it looks like I've fingered a Smurf... 😂
Yesterday I had to deal with this SSL cert expiry despite being the weekend, then today I have the fun of a franking toner leak to contend with... 🥴 The imprint was only half printing; removed the cartridge from the carriage and ran a wiper process, and cleaned the heads. And now it looks like I've fingered a Smurf... 😂
13/01/2025 @23:30
🥦🍵🎮
🥦🍵🎮
14/01/2025 @09:42
Sectigo. Quadiant. Veeam. What a delightful hat-trick of fuckery this week hath wrought 🥴😤
Sectigo. Quadiant. Veeam. What a delightful hat-trick of fuckery this week hath wrought 🥴😤
14/01/2025 @13:10
I think a lot of the "racist" assertions are inevitably due to Farage being the figurehead of the Party. The BNP was notoriously labelled as being violent far-right fascists, and let's not be obtuse here, nationalism/facism are largely interchangeable in the arena of politics. The BNP literally had Nationalist embedded in it's name. And the BNP was widely considered a party full of racists. The BNP then bled over into UKIP due to common ground on immigration policies, with some mainstream media even proposing that the BNP/UKIP were in bed together, or conflating the two together. With Farage being at the helm of UKIP during that time, he naturally became tarnished with this association with racists. For anyone centrist/left leaning, they are going to consider Farage to be racist (or at least use it as a strawman to tarnish his character). Guilty by association, and all that jazz. Farage then spearheaded the Brexit campaign, which was seen as hugely nationalistic since a huge part of the conversation around Brexit fixated on immigration policy. This will have further solidified the view that Farage is now the poster boy for racists all over the country. And now, Farage being the figurehead of Reform, who also stand on business when it comes to immigration policy - it stands to reason that the racist labels are going to come thick and fast from the centre/left. It almost feels that Farage has a single policy focus, that being immigration. Just to be clear, I'm here for it - I am simply sharing my observations. I voted Reform in the last election myself. No other political party is willing to have a mature discussion around immigration, despite it irrefutably being a conversation that needs to be had sooner rather than later. I will accept being called racist and xenophobic if that's what is necessary to safeguard the future of our children. Our ancestors undeniably endured a lot worse for us. Viva Britannia.
I think a lot of the "racist" assertions are inevitably due to Farage being the figurehead of the Party. The BNP was notoriously labelled as being violent far-right fascists, and let's not be obtuse here, nationalism/facism are largely interchangeable in the arena of politics. The BNP literally had Nationalist embedded in it's name. And the BNP was widely considered a party full of racists. The BNP then bled over into UKIP due to common ground on immigration policies, with some mainstream media even proposing that the BNP/UKIP were in bed together, or conflating the two together. With Farage being at the helm of UKIP during that time, he naturally became tarnished with this association with racists. For anyone centrist/left leaning, they are going to consider Farage to be racist (or at least use it as a strawman to tarnish his character). Guilty by association, and all that jazz. Farage then spearheaded the Brexit campaign, which was seen as hugely nationalistic since a huge part of the conversation around Brexit fixated on immigration policy. This will have further solidified the view that Farage is now the poster boy for racists all over the country. And now, Farage being the figurehead of Reform, who also stand on business when it comes to immigration policy - it stands to reason that the racist labels are going to come thick and fast from the centre/left. It almost feels that Farage has a single policy focus, that being immigration. Just to be clear, I'm here for it - I am simply sharing my observations. I voted Reform in the last election myself. No other political party is willing to have a mature discussion around immigration, despite it irrefutably being a conversation that needs to be had sooner rather than later. I will accept being called racist and xenophobic if that's what is necessary to safeguard the future of our children. Our ancestors undeniably endured a lot worse for us. Viva Britannia.
14/01/2025 @18:46
You're enough already; you don't need to prove anything to anyone. Get over your main character syndrome & embody NPC energy like me 🥴🤣 But seriously, barely anybody pays any attention to what's going on with you - they're all too preoccupied with their own lives. Stop worrying about what other people may think & just do what makes you happy. Unless that involves murdering prostitutes, of course.
You're enough already; you don't need to prove anything to anyone. Get over your main character syndrome & embody NPC energy like me 🥴🤣 But seriously, barely anybody pays any attention to what's going on with you - they're all too preoccupied with their own lives. Stop worrying about what other people may think & just do what makes you happy. Unless that involves murdering prostitutes, of course.
14/01/2025 @21:32
Nice catch up with Pete ☮ & will be good see him tomorrow for a brew 📞☕
Nice catch up with Pete ☮ & will be good see him tomorrow for a brew 📞☕
14/01/2025 @23:45
Thinning out the rank and file of the Order 🔪🎮 whilst also educating myself on financial strategy 💹📺
Thinning out the rank and file of the Order 🔪🎮 whilst also educating myself on financial strategy 💹📺
15/01/2025 @14:30
[Watching Narcos]
"Plata o plomo."
[Watching Narcos]
"Plata o plomo."
15/01/2025 @20:14
Gassed to discover that God of War Ragnarok is coming to PS+ Extra game catalog this month! 💯
Gassed to discover that God of War Ragnarok is coming to PS+ Extra game catalog this month! 💯
15/01/2025 @22:10
Had a quiet brew with Pete ☮ & now he's gone, it's time to crack back on 🎮
Had a quiet brew with Pete ☮ & now he's gone, it's time to crack back on 🎮
16/01/2025 @09:08
Walking to work this morning was food for my soul. Mornings like these when I'm out in nature, wholly present in the moment, are my therapy 😌
Walking to work this morning was food for my soul. Mornings like these when I'm out in nature, wholly present in the moment, are my therapy 😌
16/01/2025 @19:02
[Reading F*ck Whales]
"Nobody wants to hold your baby. Holding a baby is like holding a Faberge egg: All you can think about is how pissed off everyone would be if you accidentally dropped it." 😂
[Reading F*ck Whales]
"Nobody wants to hold your baby. Holding a baby is like holding a Faberge egg: All you can think about is how pissed off everyone would be if you accidentally dropped it." 😂
16/01/2025 @21:54
Always loved these cake/biscuit things but never knew they were called lebkuchen until recently. Absolutely diabolical how moreish they are. Scranned half a bag whilst continuing with recent evening trends 🎮💹📺
Always loved these cake/biscuit things but never knew they were called lebkuchen until recently. Absolutely diabolical how moreish they are. Scranned half a bag whilst continuing with recent evening trends 🎮💹📺
17/01/2025 @11:40
"We're all going to die, all of us, what a circus! That alone should make us love each other but it doesn't. We are terrorised and flattened by trivialities, we are eaten up by nothing." - Charles Bukowski
"We're all going to die, all of us, what a circus! That alone should make us love each other but it doesn't. We are terrorised and flattened by trivialities, we are eaten up by nothing." - Charles Bukowski
17/01/2025 @18:45
Kiddo has rocked up with some pasta bake for us both for tea - cheers to her Stepdad, I love a good pasta bake! 🍝🥂
Kiddo has rocked up with some pasta bake for us both for tea - cheers to her Stepdad, I love a good pasta bake! 🍝🥂
17/01/2025 @19:50
Really need to accept that sometimes people don't want me to provide a solution or offer my opinion, they just want me to shut up and listen whilst they vent about it... 🫡😶🌫️
Really need to accept that sometimes people don't want me to provide a solution or offer my opinion, they just want me to shut up and listen whilst they vent about it... 🫡😶🌫️
17/01/2025 @20:30
[Playing Cats Hidden in Paris]
Brief cute game; took around half an hour to 100% complete. My expectation was that it would fully colour the picture in upon completion. I was excited as I clicked around frantically looking for all these elusive contortionist felines, the anticipation rushing me onward. I found the 100th cat and watched closely in awe. No. No colour? I sat in total disbelief, my world crashing around me. With crippling heartbreak and feeling robbed of my deserving reward, I closed the game and uninstalled it, never to be played again.
[Playing Cats Hidden in Paris]
Brief cute game; took around half an hour to 100% complete. My expectation was that it would fully colour the picture in upon completion. I was excited as I clicked around frantically looking for all these elusive contortionist felines, the anticipation rushing me onward. I found the 100th cat and watched closely in awe. No. No colour? I sat in total disbelief, my world crashing around me. With crippling heartbreak and feeling robbed of my deserving reward, I closed the game and uninstalled it, never to be played again.
17/01/2025 @21:55
Not sure at what age a kids privacy is considered more important than their safety, but it sure as shit isn't 12.
Not sure at what age a kids privacy is considered more important than their safety, but it sure as shit isn't 12.
18/01/2025 @14:10
Up at 11am after a solid sleep 🛌🏼 Lysh finally started watching Arcane 📺 whilst on facetime with Ivy for like 3hrs 🤳🏼 we're supposed be going up Sandhole later 🛝🐎
Up at 11am after a solid sleep 🛌🏼 Lysh finally started watching Arcane 📺 whilst on facetime with Ivy for like 3hrs 🤳🏼 we're supposed be going up Sandhole later 🛝🐎
18/01/2025 @19:45
Fake 7A bus. Ivy has been banned off TT live for a month. Spicy Chat AI. B&M scran. Sandhole. The Crutch. Sticky stick. K9 Trappy. "Evening". MHA audios. I'll punch your baby - I'll wipe you both out. Think fast! Ding dong ditch.
Fake 7A bus. Ivy has been banned off TT live for a month. Spicy Chat AI. B&M scran. Sandhole. The Crutch. Sticky stick. K9 Trappy. "Evening". MHA audios. I'll punch your baby - I'll wipe you both out. Think fast! Ding dong ditch.
18/01/2025 @23:16
We got home, ate pizza 🍕 then Lysh has been our DJ for the evening whilst I've played Valhalla 🎮 it feels so wrong being sat gaming whilst she's here, but she just wants to watch Tik-Toks and doesn't want to do anything together so 😓💁🏼♂️
We got home, ate pizza 🍕 then Lysh has been our DJ for the evening whilst I've played Valhalla 🎮 it feels so wrong being sat gaming whilst she's here, but she just wants to watch Tik-Toks and doesn't want to do anything together so 😓💁🏼♂️
19/01/2025 @10:05
Damn, didn't realise the Tik-Tok/Bytedance ban also included Capcut, Lemon8, and Marvel Snap (plus more)! 🤯
Damn, didn't realise the Tik-Tok/Bytedance ban also included Capcut, Lemon8, and Marvel Snap (plus more)! 🤯
19/01/2025 @14:02
Watching the rest of Arcane S1 today 📺 Bug has been on Toca on her iPad for the first time in recent memory but is now back making an SBG edit for Tik-Tok 😅 I'm sat here on PoGo waiting for Moz to invite me to a Ho-Oh Raid 🤳🏼 I am really mourning for her childhood lately, this tween angst is killing me rn! 💀
Watching the rest of Arcane S1 today 📺 Bug has been on Toca on her iPad for the first time in recent memory but is now back making an SBG edit for Tik-Tok 😅 I'm sat here on PoGo waiting for Moz to invite me to a Ho-Oh Raid 🤳🏼 I am really mourning for her childhood lately, this tween angst is killing me rn! 💀
19/01/2025 @19:10
Parenting includes trying to ensure your child feels loved and valued - that they know how much you care and support them. So you send them messages to reassure them that they're the most important thing in your life, that you love spending time with them & always will... and they reply with "OK?? 😭" so you ask why they sent a cry emoji and they tell you it means "🤣" to their generation... 🥴
Parenting includes trying to ensure your child feels loved and valued - that they know how much you care and support them. So you send them messages to reassure them that they're the most important thing in your life, that you love spending time with them & always will... and they reply with "OK?? 😭" so you ask why they sent a cry emoji and they tell you it means "🤣" to their generation... 🥴
19/01/2025 @23:00
[Playing Assassin's Creed Valhalla]
Well, I'm like 85hrs in and feel as if I'm finally approaching the end game now 🎮 I had considered going for the Platinum, but I honestly don't think I can be fucked with all 782 of the collectibles! Absurd bloat! 🏆🚫
[Playing Assassin's Creed Valhalla]
Well, I'm like 85hrs in and feel as if I'm finally approaching the end game now 🎮 I had considered going for the Platinum, but I honestly don't think I can be fucked with all 782 of the collectibles! Absurd bloat! 🏆🚫
20/01/2025 @10:45
Today it's the voice recorder's turn to kick up a fuss... 📞🤦🏼♂️ and the telephony is also still on crack! Roll on Feb 1st so I can have a beer! 🍺🥱
Today it's the voice recorder's turn to kick up a fuss... 📞🤦🏼♂️ and the telephony is also still on crack! Roll on Feb 1st so I can have a beer! 🍺🥱
20/01/2025 @13:01
It's Dawn's birthday today, so she popped by my work with my Mum to grab her birthday card 🥳 and some absolute weapon of a woman kept interrupting us because her husband had parked in a loading bay instead of the disabled bay... 🥴♿
It's Dawn's birthday today, so she popped by my work with my Mum to grab her birthday card 🥳 and some absolute weapon of a woman kept interrupting us because her husband had parked in a loading bay instead of the disabled bay... 🥴♿
20/01/2025 @15:30
Feeling so emotionally & mentally drained lately... 😩 My mind won't switch off... I'm overwhelmed, I'm irritable, I'm short tempered. I also kinda just want to curl in a ball in a dark room and cry for a little while. Frustrated with the current onslaught at work. Worrying about my long term finances. Stressing about Lysh's emotional wellbeing, her safety, and her phone addiction (even spoke to Ree about her phone usage lately!). I'm beginning to think I rely on alcohol as a coping mechanism for my anxiety and that Dry Jan is utterly decimating my mental health tbh! 🥴
Feeling so emotionally & mentally drained lately... 😩 My mind won't switch off... I'm overwhelmed, I'm irritable, I'm short tempered. I also kinda just want to curl in a ball in a dark room and cry for a little while. Frustrated with the current onslaught at work. Worrying about my long term finances. Stressing about Lysh's emotional wellbeing, her safety, and her phone addiction (even spoke to Ree about her phone usage lately!). I'm beginning to think I rely on alcohol as a coping mechanism for my anxiety and that Dry Jan is utterly decimating my mental health tbh! 🥴
20/01/2025 @20:02
Finished work and saw Lysh had sent some screenshots to the family group chat on WhatsApp of her phone usage/screen time! 🤯 So when I got home, I facetimed her which was a nice change 🤳🏼 and then we spent the next 1.5hrs chatting whilst she stalked her teachers on Facebook & gave me a guided tour of her phone via screenshare 😅👀
Finished work and saw Lysh had sent some screenshots to the family group chat on WhatsApp of her phone usage/screen time! 🤯 So when I got home, I facetimed her which was a nice change 🤳🏼 and then we spent the next 1.5hrs chatting whilst she stalked her teachers on Facebook & gave me a guided tour of her phone via screenshare 😅👀
20/01/2025 @23:55
I've somehow managed to retain my sobriety despite having every intention earlier today of having a beer tonight! 🍺 I honestly think speaking with Lysh really anchored me again ⚓ After she went offline for a shower, I made some food & watched some Idiot Abroad whilst playing Valhalla. My save file is now at 91.5hrs and there is only one member of the Order remaining to kill. Next stop is Hordafylke and then it's just Hamtunscire left for the finale! 🎮
I've somehow managed to retain my sobriety despite having every intention earlier today of having a beer tonight! 🍺 I honestly think speaking with Lysh really anchored me again ⚓ After she went offline for a shower, I made some food & watched some Idiot Abroad whilst playing Valhalla. My save file is now at 91.5hrs and there is only one member of the Order remaining to kill. Next stop is Hordafylke and then it's just Hamtunscire left for the finale! 🎮
21/01/2025 @09:15
Dentist appointment 🦷😩
Dentist appointment 🦷😩
21/01/2025 @21:45
Wait. So, let me get this straight. Basim was Loki reincarnated as evidenced by the dialogue during his battle with Eivor. Then Basim ended up trapped in the ISU Animus thing until Layla inadvertently released him in modern day. The Staff of Hermes Trismegistus then healed Basim back to full health (since his body had largely decomposed over the hundreds of years since Eivor trapped him). So now, in the AC universe, basically Loki is now wandering around in the body of Basim? And Loki is now in the Animus, controlling Eivor? What.
Wait. So, let me get this straight. Basim was Loki reincarnated as evidenced by the dialogue during his battle with Eivor. Then Basim ended up trapped in the ISU Animus thing until Layla inadvertently released him in modern day. The Staff of Hermes Trismegistus then healed Basim back to full health (since his body had largely decomposed over the hundreds of years since Eivor trapped him). So now, in the AC universe, basically Loki is now wandering around in the body of Basim? And Loki is now in the Animus, controlling Eivor? What.
21/01/2025 @22:05
Bye Dry 👋🏼 Having a couple beers with Pete! 🍻
Bye Dry 👋🏼 Having a couple beers with Pete! 🍻
22/01/2025 @09:35
Trying to process that Bug is growing up and I am admittedly terrified to be honest. I am terrified she's going to get groomed, or coerced into sharing nudes, or sexually abused, or trafficked, or that her current exploration into her sexuality will lead her down some dark path to self-harm, depression, suicide etc. This is all so new and I have been blindsided by how rapidly this has emerged. Obviously I knew this day would come, I just didn't think it would be when she was 12. I know that I need to help her navigate these formative years with compassion, understanding, and acceptance. I need her to trust me, to feel able to confide in me, and to have open communication channels. I have to keep reassuring myself that this is all just a normal part of her maturing and growing up. Technology makes it difficult to limit exposure; that's something my generation are the first parents to contend with. How can you keep your child safe, when you have no real control over what they can access? Her Mum bought her a phone that isn't monitored, allowed her to have unfiltered access to Netflix (including any adult content that comes with it), and now isn't even at home 15hrs of the day either. And yet I also know you cannot be looking over your kids shoulder every second of the day anyway, and even using parental controls can only go so far when they have friends who's parents may not be so restrictive, or new technologies like AI crop up which you cannot account for. It's ever evolving, and your kid is going to find a way to do whatever it is one way or another. All you can do is make sure they are educated and that they're being as safe as possible. Give them the necessary tools and then trust them to be sensible. Right now the alarm bells keep ringing and all I want to do as her Dad is get rid of her phone, wrap her in cotton wool, and keep her safe from all the ugliness and danger in the world. But that's not right. That's my own insecurities and anxieties taking the wheel. Instead what I need to do, is accept she is growing up, and help her to transition into adulthood smoothly. With unconditional love and unlimited patience. God, help me.
Trying to process that Bug is growing up and I am admittedly terrified to be honest. I am terrified she's going to get groomed, or coerced into sharing nudes, or sexually abused, or trafficked, or that her current exploration into her sexuality will lead her down some dark path to self-harm, depression, suicide etc. This is all so new and I have been blindsided by how rapidly this has emerged. Obviously I knew this day would come, I just didn't think it would be when she was 12. I know that I need to help her navigate these formative years with compassion, understanding, and acceptance. I need her to trust me, to feel able to confide in me, and to have open communication channels. I have to keep reassuring myself that this is all just a normal part of her maturing and growing up. Technology makes it difficult to limit exposure; that's something my generation are the first parents to contend with. How can you keep your child safe, when you have no real control over what they can access? Her Mum bought her a phone that isn't monitored, allowed her to have unfiltered access to Netflix (including any adult content that comes with it), and now isn't even at home 15hrs of the day either. And yet I also know you cannot be looking over your kids shoulder every second of the day anyway, and even using parental controls can only go so far when they have friends who's parents may not be so restrictive, or new technologies like AI crop up which you cannot account for. It's ever evolving, and your kid is going to find a way to do whatever it is one way or another. All you can do is make sure they are educated and that they're being as safe as possible. Give them the necessary tools and then trust them to be sensible. Right now the alarm bells keep ringing and all I want to do as her Dad is get rid of her phone, wrap her in cotton wool, and keep her safe from all the ugliness and danger in the world. But that's not right. That's my own insecurities and anxieties taking the wheel. Instead what I need to do, is accept she is growing up, and help her to transition into adulthood smoothly. With unconditional love and unlimited patience. God, help me.
22/01/2025 @19:45
[Playing Assassin's Creed Valhalla]
Calling it enough at 94hrs. Skill Level 340. Order wiped out. All other quests are finished except for Settlement L6, Mastery Challenges & River Raids. No interest in traipsing all over the map doing these 700-odd collectibles and side quests. I 100%'d a few regions but I just don't care enough to shoot for the Plat when I have so many other games Backloggd to get around too.
[Playing Assassin's Creed Valhalla]
Calling it enough at 94hrs. Skill Level 340. Order wiped out. All other quests are finished except for Settlement L6, Mastery Challenges & River Raids. No interest in traipsing all over the map doing these 700-odd collectibles and side quests. I 100%'d a few regions but I just don't care enough to shoot for the Plat when I have so many other games Backloggd to get around too.
23/01/2025 @00:34
[Playing Coffee Talk]
Completed in a single sitting. Platinum trophy acquired. Cute, cozy game which explores some very mature themes but manages to present and explore them very well.
[Playing Coffee Talk]
Completed in a single sitting. Platinum trophy acquired. Cute, cozy game which explores some very mature themes but manages to present and explore them very well.
23/01/2025 @14:48
Good deed done for the day. Found a Monzo bank card en route to work in Hanley Forest Park 💳 Tracked down the owner via Facebook and reached out on Messenger to them. Had a brief little exchange and now I've reunited them 😁
Good deed done for the day. Found a Monzo bank card en route to work in Hanley Forest Park 💳 Tracked down the owner via Facebook and reached out on Messenger to them. Had a brief little exchange and now I've reunited them 😁
23/01/2025 @22:15
[Playing Little Nightmares II]
DNF due to not having enough patience to replay the same annoying sections over and over (and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over) due to the (likely by design) frustrating and janky controls. I am too old for this shit (and my backlog is too long).
[Playing Little Nightmares II]
DNF due to not having enough patience to replay the same annoying sections over and over (and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over) due to the (likely by design) frustrating and janky controls. I am too old for this shit (and my backlog is too long).
24/01/2025 @00:30
[Watching I, Daniel Blake]
Quite a thought provoking film about how genuinely vulnerable and desperate people are failed by a welfare system that is onerous and opaque; where bureaucracy reigns supreme and access to essential basic human needs can be postponed by error and red tape.
[Watching I, Daniel Blake]
Quite a thought provoking film about how genuinely vulnerable and desperate people are failed by a welfare system that is onerous and opaque; where bureaucracy reigns supreme and access to essential basic human needs can be postponed by error and red tape.
24/01/2025 @13:08
Concerning weather today, especially if you're the Witch-King of Angmar.
Concerning weather today, especially if you're the Witch-King of Angmar.
24/01/2025 @11:12
Across from my office window is a building where someone has left their upstairs window open... and their vertical blinds has been fighting for it's life in this Storm Eowyn... they've been flapping out the window like an octopus trying to escape! And then boom, I just see random sections tear off and fuck off into the sky, flapping away like severed tentacles! 🍃🐙
Across from my office window is a building where someone has left their upstairs window open... and their vertical blinds has been fighting for it's life in this Storm Eowyn... they've been flapping out the window like an octopus trying to escape! And then boom, I just see random sections tear off and fuck off into the sky, flapping away like severed tentacles! 🍃🐙
24/01/2025 @19:24
SBG S2 finale 👥
SBG S2 finale 👥
24/01/2025 @22:58
Bug is back to her usual self 🥰 she's been dancing around the (rearranged) living room to Just Dance on YouTube 💃🏼📺 and then singing her lungs out too 🎤
Bug is back to her usual self 🥰 she's been dancing around the (rearranged) living room to Just Dance on YouTube 💃🏼📺 and then singing her lungs out too 🎤
25/01/2025 @01:11
Been a creative one at my house tonight! My first time using Procreate meanwhile Bug has been working on her latest SBG edit 😁🎨
Been a creative one at my house tonight! My first time using Procreate meanwhile Bug has been working on her latest SBG edit 😁🎨
25/01/2025 @19:00
Up at 11am. Aphmau. Procreate signatures. UPVC blanking panel. SBGxArcane corkboard display. Zeeshan.
Up at 11am. Aphmau. Procreate signatures. UPVC blanking panel. SBGxArcane corkboard display. Zeeshan.
25/01/2025 @19:00
[Watching Oppenheimer]
It's mad to realise how many of these great scientific minds actually met each other; Oppenheimer, Einstein, Heisenberg etc. I never even realised Einstein lived until 1955, it's wild 🧠💣
[Watching Oppenheimer]
It's mad to realise how many of these great scientific minds actually met each other; Oppenheimer, Einstein, Heisenberg etc. I never even realised Einstein lived until 1955, it's wild 🧠💣
26/01/2025 @11:45
Started the day off by filing a police report for an attempted break-in at my house... #DP-1813-25-2121-04 🙃
Started the day off by filing a police report for an attempted break-in at my house... #DP-1813-25-2121-04 🙃
26/01/2025 @12:55
Play games like a kid again, without looking anything up on the internet.
Achievements have ruined this approach for me (alongside the accessibility to new titles as my backlog is huge). It's my own vanity, but I want the Platinum trophy if possible... so I always feel compelled to check the most efficient way to grab as many trophies as possible in a single playthrough. Due to my backlog, I loathe needing to play through games multiple times if I miss a trophy etc.
Play games like a kid again, without looking anything up on the internet.
Achievements have ruined this approach for me (alongside the accessibility to new titles as my backlog is huge). It's my own vanity, but I want the Platinum trophy if possible... so I always feel compelled to check the most efficient way to grab as many trophies as possible in a single playthrough. Due to my backlog, I loathe needing to play through games multiple times if I miss a trophy etc.
26/01/2025 @15:00
Since Charlie hasn't visited again, I actually took the time to look at how rapidly the frequency of seeing him fell off in the last few years. From 2013 until then end of 2019, I'd see him twice a week, on Wednesday nights after work when I'd visit my Mum, then on Sunday's when they would visit me. Around ~100 days each year. Then in 2020, Covid hit and my Mum shielding meant I could no longer visit on a Wednesday night so I only really saw him on Sunday's; I only saw him 42 days that year. From there, it never really recovered, largely because I never returned to visiting on Wednesdays as I stopped having a bus pass during the recurrent lockdowns. In 2021, I only saw my boy for 25 days. In 2022, it fell to 18 days. The trend continued down as he started finding more excuses to not visit such as illnesses or his poor sleep routine. In 2023, I only saw him 13 days, and this was about the same for 2024, which was just 12 days. It's the 26th of January 2025, and so far I've not seen him yet this year. It does break my heart a little, to acknowledge the little boy who was once a massive part of my life and I'd see twice a week, is now a teenager I see on average once a month. And as he continues to grow, with his girlfriend, his mates, his own life and all that comes with growing up... I'm certain that number will dwindle further. But no matter where life takes him, and no matter what happens, he'll forever be my Sonshine, and I'll always be his Uncle Ben. Love you Char.
Since Charlie hasn't visited again, I actually took the time to look at how rapidly the frequency of seeing him fell off in the last few years. From 2013 until then end of 2019, I'd see him twice a week, on Wednesday nights after work when I'd visit my Mum, then on Sunday's when they would visit me. Around ~100 days each year. Then in 2020, Covid hit and my Mum shielding meant I could no longer visit on a Wednesday night so I only really saw him on Sunday's; I only saw him 42 days that year. From there, it never really recovered, largely because I never returned to visiting on Wednesdays as I stopped having a bus pass during the recurrent lockdowns. In 2021, I only saw my boy for 25 days. In 2022, it fell to 18 days. The trend continued down as he started finding more excuses to not visit such as illnesses or his poor sleep routine. In 2023, I only saw him 13 days, and this was about the same for 2024, which was just 12 days. It's the 26th of January 2025, and so far I've not seen him yet this year. It does break my heart a little, to acknowledge the little boy who was once a massive part of my life and I'd see twice a week, is now a teenager I see on average once a month. And as he continues to grow, with his girlfriend, his mates, his own life and all that comes with growing up... I'm certain that number will dwindle further. But no matter where life takes him, and no matter what happens, he'll forever be my Sonshine, and I'll always be his Uncle Ben. Love you Char.
26/01/2025 @20:01
Been for a couple of pints with Pete down Forresters then Green Star 🍻 then went back his gaff for a couple tinnies whilst he wired up his recording setup 🎸🎹🎤 and now I'm back home about to eat a chicken jalfrezi & play some Coffee Time Episode II 🍛🎮
Been for a couple of pints with Pete down Forresters then Green Star 🍻 then went back his gaff for a couple tinnies whilst he wired up his recording setup 🎸🎹🎤 and now I'm back home about to eat a chicken jalfrezi & play some Coffee Time Episode II 🍛🎮
27/01/2025 @13:37
Unexpectedly getting to see Tommy always cheers me up 🥰😍
Unexpectedly getting to see Tommy always cheers me up 🥰😍
27/01/2025 @23:32
[Playing Coffee Talk II]
Completed over a couple days. Platinum trophy acquired. Cute, cozy game which explores some very mature themes but manages to present and explore them very well. Builds on the original without any dramatic changes in format or content.
[Playing Coffee Talk II]
Completed over a couple days. Platinum trophy acquired. Cute, cozy game which explores some very mature themes but manages to present and explore them very well. Builds on the original without any dramatic changes in format or content.
27/01/2025 @23:41
[Listening to Mac Lethal: Jake + Olive]
"I know in life I won't be satisfied unless I live my life with you / Don't want to live one single day apart, I hope I die before you do..." - Forgot how much I love this song... who the hell is cuttin onions this late at night?😭
[Listening to Mac Lethal: Jake + Olive]
"I know in life I won't be satisfied unless I live my life with you / Don't want to live one single day apart, I hope I die before you do..." - Forgot how much I love this song... who the hell is cuttin onions this late at night?😭
27/01/2025 @23:55
[Listening to James Blunt: Monsters]
"No need to forgive, no need to forget / I know your mistakes and you know mine... / And while you're sleeping, I'll try to make you proud - so, daddy, won't you just close your eyes?/ Don't be afraid, it's my turn to chase the monsters away."
[Listening to James Blunt: Monsters]
"No need to forgive, no need to forget / I know your mistakes and you know mine... / And while you're sleeping, I'll try to make you proud - so, daddy, won't you just close your eyes?/ Don't be afraid, it's my turn to chase the monsters away."
28/01/2025 @06:12
Woke up early with extremely vivid recall of a bizarre dream 😂 so, here we go... It began with me coming down a hiking trail with Tez alongside a waterfall. We reached the bottom and Tez randomly ripped up some book and discarded it under a set of stairs beside a small cafe. Next thing I'm with Elon Musk and two others at some facility overlooking the beautiful hiking trail I'd been on with Tez. Then I'm in a SpaceX plane at night, baffled that we could use WiFi. It's very posh inside and Elon is amused that I'm so naive about how advanced technology is now. The pilot kept laughing maniacally at how clueless I seemed for asking dumb questions. Suddenly we're freefalling and I'm panicking that the plane is about to crash. The pilot is in hysterics. Transpired the pilot had intentionally let the plane fall out of the sky to demonstrate that it could autopilot land by itself in reverse... 🤯 Then we're at a petrol station in the plane? The wings have folded up to allow us to fit beside the pumps. Musk and the others are all amused by how in awe I am about everything we are experiencing. We pull back up at the facility and are walking down the side of a building. I recall asking if we could see a Cybertruck but nobody responds. I am taking photos on my phone, so I begin falling behind and have to hurry to catch up. The building seems to have no way in, but one of the guys hangs back to open a concealed door that looks like a section of flush marble but opens wide. Once inside, I am walking through a large room packed with other guests, that seems like a mining exhibit with a lot of yellowish rocks and ore, alongside explanatory signboards and large TV's hanging from the ceiling/mounted on walls. I get the impression it's related to the Boring company. I can just make out Elon and the other two guys as they're disappearing out the other side of the room, so I'm hurrying after them. I enter a small reception like area with STAFF ONLY doors and ask a staff member where Elon Musk has gone? The security hold me up, asking what makes me think I can go after him? I laugh and tell them I've been with him for the past five hours, but we just got separated. The staff laugh and say I must be the "strange boy" they'd heard about being with Musk earlier. I exit out of a door at the back of the facility and can see Elon and the other two in the distance walking down a road in the direction of the hiking trail. The sun is rising and I hear one of the men ask Elon if they can go to Blackpool for the day. I recall just thinking that it's Monday and I have to go to work. Then I woke up... 😂
Woke up early with extremely vivid recall of a bizarre dream 😂 so, here we go... It began with me coming down a hiking trail with Tez alongside a waterfall. We reached the bottom and Tez randomly ripped up some book and discarded it under a set of stairs beside a small cafe. Next thing I'm with Elon Musk and two others at some facility overlooking the beautiful hiking trail I'd been on with Tez. Then I'm in a SpaceX plane at night, baffled that we could use WiFi. It's very posh inside and Elon is amused that I'm so naive about how advanced technology is now. The pilot kept laughing maniacally at how clueless I seemed for asking dumb questions. Suddenly we're freefalling and I'm panicking that the plane is about to crash. The pilot is in hysterics. Transpired the pilot had intentionally let the plane fall out of the sky to demonstrate that it could autopilot land by itself in reverse... 🤯 Then we're at a petrol station in the plane? The wings have folded up to allow us to fit beside the pumps. Musk and the others are all amused by how in awe I am about everything we are experiencing. We pull back up at the facility and are walking down the side of a building. I recall asking if we could see a Cybertruck but nobody responds. I am taking photos on my phone, so I begin falling behind and have to hurry to catch up. The building seems to have no way in, but one of the guys hangs back to open a concealed door that looks like a section of flush marble but opens wide. Once inside, I am walking through a large room packed with other guests, that seems like a mining exhibit with a lot of yellowish rocks and ore, alongside explanatory signboards and large TV's hanging from the ceiling/mounted on walls. I get the impression it's related to the Boring company. I can just make out Elon and the other two guys as they're disappearing out the other side of the room, so I'm hurrying after them. I enter a small reception like area with STAFF ONLY doors and ask a staff member where Elon Musk has gone? The security hold me up, asking what makes me think I can go after him? I laugh and tell them I've been with him for the past five hours, but we just got separated. The staff laugh and say I must be the "strange boy" they'd heard about being with Musk earlier. I exit out of a door at the back of the facility and can see Elon and the other two in the distance walking down a road in the direction of the hiking trail. The sun is rising and I hear one of the men ask Elon if they can go to Blackpool for the day. I recall just thinking that it's Monday and I have to go to work. Then I woke up... 😂
28/01/2025 @21:28
[Playing Crisis Core: FFVII Reunion]
I had the original Crisis Core on PSP back in the day but never really got into it despite FFVII being one of my all time favourite games. Figured it was time to rectify this blip in my gaming record. The graphics are solid enough and I've been particularly impressed with Ifrit's Hellfire animation. The game play so far has been a little one-dimensional, consisting of predominantly just running linearly between combat encounters, interspersed with occasional cinematics and bits of dialogue. Nevertheless, I'm still enjoying it. It's nostalgic to see familiar faces (like the Wutai cameo!?) and I'm fully invested in exploring these events that led up to Cloud Strife and Avalanche.
[Playing Crisis Core: FFVII Reunion]
I had the original Crisis Core on PSP back in the day but never really got into it despite FFVII being one of my all time favourite games. Figured it was time to rectify this blip in my gaming record. The graphics are solid enough and I've been particularly impressed with Ifrit's Hellfire animation. The game play so far has been a little one-dimensional, consisting of predominantly just running linearly between combat encounters, interspersed with occasional cinematics and bits of dialogue. Nevertheless, I'm still enjoying it. It's nostalgic to see familiar faces (like the Wutai cameo!?) and I'm fully invested in exploring these events that led up to Cloud Strife and Avalanche.
29/01/2025 @00:56
Been across Forresters with Pete and grabbed a couple tinnies from the offy for after 🍻 On arrival, we were nearly turned immediately away by Gaz because Pete had caused issues in there the other week with Geoff the landlord 🥴 thankfully we convinced him it was all resolved so we were allowed in. Then some lad called Carl was trying fight Gaz saying he'd witnessed him picking on a disabled customer! 😳😂 We had a couple beers and I had a chat with Phil Copestick (Sr), Ken, Mark & Brush, before we headed back Pete's for our weekly therapy session. This week included discussing the overwhelmingly depressing acceptance that at some point in the not so distant future, I'll likely become background noise in Lysh's life, just like I have in Char's 😖 Then we had a chat about school bullies and about residential school trips... and Mr Averill yelling at a bunch of kids that he's evil and the subsequent toothpaste incident! 🤣 Pete also spent far too long complaining that his Fruit Pastille's were primarily green ones 😂 I went home to bed and left him making a coffee & some food at gone 1am 😂☕🥔 ...before reluctantly aborting another unsuccessful mission... 🌹🔕
Been across Forresters with Pete and grabbed a couple tinnies from the offy for after 🍻 On arrival, we were nearly turned immediately away by Gaz because Pete had caused issues in there the other week with Geoff the landlord 🥴 thankfully we convinced him it was all resolved so we were allowed in. Then some lad called Carl was trying fight Gaz saying he'd witnessed him picking on a disabled customer! 😳😂 We had a couple beers and I had a chat with Phil Copestick (Sr), Ken, Mark & Brush, before we headed back Pete's for our weekly therapy session. This week included discussing the overwhelmingly depressing acceptance that at some point in the not so distant future, I'll likely become background noise in Lysh's life, just like I have in Char's 😖 Then we had a chat about school bullies and about residential school trips... and Mr Averill yelling at a bunch of kids that he's evil and the subsequent toothpaste incident! 🤣 Pete also spent far too long complaining that his Fruit Pastille's were primarily green ones 😂 I went home to bed and left him making a coffee & some food at gone 1am 😂☕🥔 ...before reluctantly aborting another unsuccessful mission... 🌹🔕
29/01/2025 @18:05
Walking to Tesco and there's three young girls walking behind me and I become really self-conscious 😅 so I turn to them and mention how I'm always super aware of not walking behind girls so that I don't make them uncomfortable, and they laugh and say "now you know how it feels!" 😂 I said "I don't feel safe, I'm crossing to the other side of the street!" and then crossed the road whilst they all laughed 😂 very wholesome interaction! 😝
Walking to Tesco and there's three young girls walking behind me and I become really self-conscious 😅 so I turn to them and mention how I'm always super aware of not walking behind girls so that I don't make them uncomfortable, and they laugh and say "now you know how it feels!" 😂 I said "I don't feel safe, I'm crossing to the other side of the street!" and then crossed the road whilst they all laughed 😂 very wholesome interaction! 😝
29/01/2025 @19:13
Spoke to my Mum earlier and she advised that, to the best of her memory, I stopped consistently visiting her at weekends around 14-15yrs old (which coincides with Char). It also introduces a profound fear that in the next 2-3 years, I am going to experience Lysh noticeably distancing from me. And I am not ready for that yet. I had a brief chat on video call with her earlier; she was drinking a can of Monster... she already want's to be older than she is, and with that, I expect comes a lonely future for myself.
Spoke to my Mum earlier and she advised that, to the best of her memory, I stopped consistently visiting her at weekends around 14-15yrs old (which coincides with Char). It also introduces a profound fear that in the next 2-3 years, I am going to experience Lysh noticeably distancing from me. And I am not ready for that yet. I had a brief chat on video call with her earlier; she was drinking a can of Monster... she already want's to be older than she is, and with that, I expect comes a lonely future for myself.
29/01/2025 @20:21
"Gentlemen let's talk about something fundamental: solitude. A man who lives alone without a girlfriend stands at a crossroads. He either becomes stronger through self-discipline and purpose, or he falls into stagnation, isolation, and despair. The absence of a romantic partner doesn't just mean he lacks affection, it means he has no immediate external source of validation, no one to push him toward higher aspirations, no one to challenge his complacency. His habits and routine will follow him wherever he goes, there's no separation. Now you might think, well I don't need anyone else, I'm independent, I take care of myself, and sure there's truth to that. Independence is vital, but let's be clear: living alone, truly alone, is not the same as being strong. Strength comes from engagement with the world, from taking on responsibility, from refining yourself in the presence of others. And here's the reality: you can trick yourself into believing that you're content in solitude. You wake up, you eat, you work, you play video games, you scroll through social media - you distract yourself. Days turn into weeks, weeks into months, and suddenly the silence in your apartment is no longer peaceful. It's deafening. The lack of another voice, another perspective, another challenge begins to eat away at your sense of purpose. But here's the key: if you're alone, you have two choices. You either use that solitude as an opportunity to build something meaningful, or you let it consume you. Because here's what happens to a man who lets isolation win. His discipline fades, his energy wanes, his ability to interact with the world erodes. He becomes passive. So what do you do? You structure your life with purpose, you cultivate discipline like your survival depends on it - because in many ways, it does. You learn to cook, not just heat up junk food. You read, not just to pass the time, but to refine your mind. You train your body, not just to look good, but because physical strength reinforces. And most importantly, you connect. If you don't have a romantic partner, that's fine, but you cannot bear the burden of living alone. You must seek out friends, mentors, colleagues, communities - you must challenge yourself socially, or you will become invisible, not just to others but to yourself. The question isn't whether a man can live alone without a girlfriend - he can - the real question is whether he is truly alive in that solitude, or whether he's merely existing. And that gentleman, is entirely up to him. Living alone without a partner is a paradox of human existence: on one hand it grants a man absolute freedom, freedom to structure his days as he pleases, to pursue his ambitions without compromise, to live unbound by the expectations, or needs of another. There is a certain appeal in this autonomy, in the ability to move through life without external constraints. He can wake up when he chooses, eat what he likes, dedicate his time entirely to personal goals, and avoid the complications that relationships inevitably bring for many men, especially those who have experienced difficult or unfulfilling relationships. Solitude initially feels like a form of liberation, a chance to focus on self-improvement, career aspirations, or personal hobbies without distraction. Yet beneath this surface of independence lies a deeper reality, one that often emerges only after an extended period of isolation. With freedom comes responsibility, and with responsibility comes the burden of managing one's own emotional and psychological well-being. When a man lives alone he is solely accountable for how he navigates his inner world. There is no external force to regulate his emotions, no immediate companionship to provide warmth, no daily interactions that force him to step outside of his own thoughts. It is entirely up to him to maintain his sense of purpose, his motivation, his engagement with the world... and this is where solitude can become dangerous for some men. Solitude, discipline, and self-reliance. They take the opportunity to refine their skills, cultivate knowledge, and develop a strong internal framework for resilience. They learn to manage their emotions without depending on validation from others, to take ownership of their failures, and to become the kind of man who can stand firmly on his own. This is the ideal outcome. Many men, instead of using solitude as a means of self-development, drift into patterns of stagnation. Without the external accountability that relationships often provide, they begin to lose their structure. Days become repetitive, devoid of challenge or novelty. The absence of another person to share thoughts and experiences with leads to an increasing detachment from the world. There is a deceptive comfort in isolation. When a man is alone, he avoids conflict, emotional turbulence, and the responsibilities that come with maintaining a relationship. But he also misses out on the very struggles that refine character and give life depth. Human beings are social creatures. Discipline is essential for a man, for connection. And even the most independent men are not immune to the psychological effects of prolonged loneliness over time. Solitude can dull the edges of ambition. A man may still go through the motions of his daily routine, but without shared experiences, without meaningful conversations, without the presence of another to challenge his thinking or provide support, his emotion landscape begins to shrink. He becomes more inwardly focused, his thoughts circling the same patterns, his perspective narrowing, and then one day he realizes something unsettling - the silence in his home, once peaceful, has become oppressive. The solitude, once a source of strength, now feels like a weight. The freedom that once seemed so appealing now carries a hidden cost. The burden of complete self-sufficiency. In a relationship, even in its most difficult moments, there is an external force that demands effort, growth, and adaptation. Alone, a man must generate this force himself. If he does not, he risks fading into a passive existence, where life is merely something that happens, rather than something he actively engages with. The burden of solitude is not just the absence of companionship, it is the requirement of being one's own source of structure, motivation, and emotional stability. It is the challenge of maintaining momentum without external reinforcement. It is a test of whether a man can truly stand alone, not just physically but mentally and emotionally. Some men rise to this challenge and become stronger because of it. Others slowly, and without realizing it, allow solitude to erode their sense of purpose, and in the end whether solitude becomes a blessing or a curse is determined by the choices a man makes in the silence of his own company. Discipline is the cornerstone of a man's existence when he walks through life alone. Without a partner to provide external validation, emotional support, or shared responsibility, he must rely entirely on his own ability to create order and structure. This is both a challenge and an opportunity. A test of whether he can impose the necessary structure upon himself, or whether he will allow his life to drift into aimlessness without discipline. Solitude quickly turns into stagnation and the absence of external accountability can lead to a slow erosion of ambition, purpose, and self-respect. A man who is alone has no one to remind him of his goals, no one to encourage him to get up early, no one to reinforce good habits, or call him out when he slips into complacency. He must become his own authority, his own source of motivation. This requires an internal framework of discipline, strong enough to resist the temptations of comfort, distraction, and procrastination. It is easy to let time slip away when there is no one waiting for you, no one relying on you, no shared vision pulling you forward. A day without structure quickly becomes a week without progress, and before long, months pass without any real movement toward anything meaningful. Discipline is not about rigid control, or punishment, it is about the ability to make decisions that align with a greater purpose, even when there is no immediate reward. A man must train himself to wake up with a mission, to establish routines that reinforce his growth, to set goals and pursue them with unwavering focus. He cannot afford to be ruled by fleeting emotions or momentary desires, because in solitude no one will correct him when he veers off course. If he lacks discipline, his habits will deteriorate, his sleep schedule will become inconsistent, his diet will decline, his physical health will suffer, and his mental clarity will diminish. He may rationalize his lack of structure by convincing himself that he is simply enjoying his freedom, but in reality, he is allowing his potential to decay. Discipline and solitude extends beyond mere routine. It is about the ability to manage one's mind, to maintain control over thoughts, emotions, and impulses. Without the emotional regulation that comes from shared experiences, a man must cultivate inner stability, he must learn to sit with his own thoughts, to work through moments of doubt and loneliness, without resorting to self-destructive behaviors. He must be able to push forward when motivation fades, because without discipline, motivation is fleeting and unreliable. There's also a deeper psychological component to discipline. When a man commits to structure, he builds self-respect, he proves to himself that he is capable of mastery, that he can impose order on his own existence. This is crucial, because in solitude a man's relationship with himself is paramount. If he allows himself to slip into laziness, indulgence, or apathy. He begins to lose trust in his own abilities. But if he demonstrates discipline through consistent effort, through self-imposed challenges, through the pursuit of excellence, he develops an unshakable belief in himself. This self-belief becomes his foundation, his guiding force when there is no external reinforcement. A man who lives alone must view discipline as a necessity for survival. It is the force that keeps his mind sharp, his body strong, and his purpose clear. It is what prevents him from being swallowed by the inertia of isolation. The world does not owe him structure, nor will it impose it upon him, he must create it for himself, every day without excuse. Because without discipline, solitude does not make a man free, it makes him lost. Solitude when used wisely can be a powerful tool for self-reflection and growth, it allows a man to step away from distractions, to analyze his life, to refine his thoughts, and to cultivate independence. Many great minds throughout history have embraced solitude as a means of deep introspection, finding clarity and strength in the absence of noise. However, there is a fine line between solitude and isolation. And when that line is crossed, the benefits of being alone begin to erode. What was once a period of productive reflection can slowly turn into stagnation, detachment, and an alarming loss of social competence. At first, isolation may not seem dangerous. It often starts subtly, a man spends more time by himself, prioritizing personal projects, enjoying the freedom of being unburdened by social obligations. He tells himself that he is simply focusing on his goals, that he doesn't need constant interaction to be fulfilled, and in truth there is a certain appeal to living in one's own world unshaped by the influence of others. The problem arises when solitude becomes the default state, rather than a temporary retreat. The longer a man remains isolated, the more his perception of reality becomes distorted. One of the first signs of unhealthy isolation is stagnation. Without social interactions to provide feedback, challenge ideas, or introduce new perspectives, a man's thinking begins to loop in predictable patterns. His ambitions may fade, because there is no external reinforcement pushing him forward. When left entirely to his own devices, without external accountability, it becomes easier to settle into routines that lack growth. He may still convince himself that he's working towards something meaningful, but without exposure to the world outside his own mind, his progress slows. There is no friction, no challenge, no sense of urgency. Life becomes comfortable, but comfort in isolation often leads to decay. Beyond stagnation, prolonged isolation fosters detachment. Human beings are inherently social creatures, interaction is wired into our psychology. When a man removes himself from social circles for too long, his ability to connect with others begins to weaken. The rhythms of conversation, the nuances of body language, the unspoken rules of social engagement - all of these skills require practice. When a man isolates himself, he loses touch with them. He becomes increasingly comfortable in his own presence, but less capable in the presence of others. Over time, he may begin to feel out of sync with the world, as if he is watching life unfold from behind a glass barrier. This detachment doesn't just affect how he interacts with others, it changes how he perceives himself. When a man is alone for too long, he can start to see himself through a warped lens. He may become overly critical, magnifying his flaws without external reassurance, or he may go in the opposite direction, building an inflated self impude that isn't tested by real world interactions. In either case, isolation skews self-perception, making it harder to reintegrate into social life. Perhaps the most alarming consequence of prolonged isolation is the gradual loss of social competence. Social skills, like any other ability, require regular use. A man who isolates himself for too long will find that when he does attempt to re-engage, he struggles. Conversations feel awkward. He second guesses his words. He misreads social cues. And because these experiences are uncomfortable, he may withdraw further, reinforcing the cycle of isolation. Over time he convinces himself that he simply doesn't fit in, that he is better off alone. But this is not because he is incapable of connection, it is because he has neglected the skills required to connect. Isolation is insidious because it often feels like a choice, even when it has become a trap. The longer a man stays in it, the harder it is to break free. The world moves on without him, friendships fade, and reintegration becomes more difficult. But the solution is not complicated - it requires conscious effort. A man must actively seek engagement, even when it feels unnatural. At first he must push himself into uncomfortable social situations, challenge his own excuses, and recognize that solitude, when overindulged, ceases to be a strength and becomes a weakness. Solitude is a tool, but isolation is a disease. If a man does not guard against it, he risks waking up one day to find that he has not only lost his connection to the world, but more importantly his connection to himself. Masculine growth is forged through challenge. A man without a romantic partner does not have the built-in responsibilities, emotional exchanges, and daily interactions that a relationship naturally provides. Without this dynamic force pushing him forward, he must deliberately seek out challenges elsewhere, lest he drift into complacency. Growth does not happen in comfort; it happens in adversity. A man who is alone must decide whether his solitude will be a catalyst for transformation, or an excuse for stagnation. Without the external structure of a relationship, a man must create his own path toward growth. This means engaging with the world in meaningful ways, taking on responsibilities, and setting ambitious goals. The worst mistake a man can make in solitude is to slip into a passive existence, filling his time with distractions rather than purpose. It is easy to waste days, weeks, even years in meaningless entertainment, consuming rather than creating, avoiding struggle rather than embracing it. But growth demands friction, it demands that a man put himself in situations where he must rise to meet the challenge. Physical discipline is one of the most direct ways to cultivate masculine growth. Training the body is not just about aesthetics or health, it is about mastering oneself. The gym, the dojo, the running trail - these places are not merely spaces for exercise, but arenas where a man confronts his limits. Lifting weights teaches patience and perseverance. Martial arts teach discipline and resilience. Endurance training cultivates mental toughness. A man who commits to physical excellence is not just sculpting his body, he is forging his character, he is proving to himself day after day that he can push through pain, discomfort, and fatigue. This strength carries over into all other areas of life, beyond the physical. A man must challenge himself intellectually and creatively. Without a relationship to provide intellectual stimulation through conversation and shared perspectives, he must seek knowledge actively, reading, learning new skills, engaging in deep work. These are the mental equivalents of lifting heavy weights. A man should be expanding his mind, questioning his beliefs, refining his thoughts. He should take on projects that stretch his capabilities, whether it is writing, coding, or creating. Complacency thrives in routine, growth thrives in challenge. If a man does not push his intellect, he risks falling into a stagnant, passive way of thinking, where his mind becomes dull and untested. Social engagement is another critical area where a man must challenge himself. It is easy to withdraw from social life when there is no partner drawing him into shared experiences, but isolation when unchecked weakens social intelligence. A man must be deliberate in building and maintaining relationships with friends, mentors, colleagues, and even strangers. He should seek out environments where he is forced to interact, where he must learn to communicate effectively, where he must navigate different personalities and perspectives. Social competence is a skill and like any skill it deteriorates if not practiced. Purpose is perhaps the most significant challenge a man must embrace. Without the external validation and emotional connection of a partner, a man must define his own mission. This mission cannot be vague or half-hearted, it must be something that drives him forward every day, whether it is career ambition, creative pursuits, athletic excellence, or a deeper philosophical journey. A man must wake up with a sense of direction. A man with a mission does not need distractions to fill his time, his time is already accounted for, devoted to something greater than himself. Solitude is neither good nor bad, it is what a man makes of it. Used correctly, it becomes a period of immense growth, a time to sharpen his mind, strengthen his body, deepen his character, and refine his purpose. Used poorly, it becomes an excuse for comfort, laziness, and avoidance. A man who understands the necessity of challenge does not fear solitude - he uses it as fuel, he seeks adversity, knowing that every hardship overcome makes him stronger. And in doing so, he transforms not only his life, but himself. Human beings are inherently social creatures and no man, no matter how independent or self-sufficient, can thrive in complete isolation. While solitude can be valuable for self-reflection and personal growth, prolonged detachment from social interaction leads to loneliness, stagnation, and even nihilism. A man without a romantic relationship must actively engage with the world, build meaningful relationships, and foster a sense of belonging within his community. Without strong social bonds, he risks falling into a void where his sense of purpose and identity slowly erode. Friendships serve as one of the most essential pillars of a man's social life, a strong circle of friends provides camaraderie, support, and accountability. Through shared experiences, challenges, and discussions, friendships offer a source of motivation and perspective that cannot be found in isolation. Men sharpen one another through competition, collaboration, and honest feedback. And so, a man building strong friendships and mentorships, surrounded by good friends, is less likely to fall into self-destructive habits, or allow complacency to take root. His friends challenge him, encourage him, and remind him of his worth when he begins to doubt himself. But friendships do not maintain themselves, they require effort. A man must take the initiative to reach out, to organize gatherings, to be present in the lives of those he values. Passively waiting for social interactions to happen leads only to further isolation. Beyond friendships, mentors play a crucial role in a man's development. Without a romantic partner, a man must be even more intentional about seeking guidance from those who have walked the path before him. A mentor, whether in career, philosophy, fitness, or any other domain, provides wisdom, perspective, and a level of accountability that is difficult to cultivate alone. A mentor helps a man refine his thinking, avoid common pitfalls, and accelerate his growth. Too many men try to navigate life without seeking counsel, believing they must figure everything out on their own. But wisdom is often borrowed, before it is earned. And a man who isolates himself from those who can teach him is bound to repeat avoidable mistakes. Finding mentors requires humility and effort. A man must put himself in environments where experienced individuals gather, whether in professional settings, social organizations, or intellectual circles. He must be willing to listen more than he speaks, and to apply the lessons he learns. Community is another essential component of a man's social foundation. Even if he does not have a romantic partner, he must still belong to something greater than himself, whether it is a professional network, a sports team, a creative group, a volunteer organization, or a religious institution. Being part of a community reinforces a sense of purpose, it reminds a man that his actions affect others, that he has a role to play in the world. A man who engages with his community gains both practical and emotional benefits, he expands his network, finds new opportunities, and feels the satisfaction of contributing to something meaningful. The danger of neglecting social bonds is not just loneliness, it is nihilism. When a man withdraws too far from the world, his sense of meaning begins to erode. He may convince himself that relationships are unnecessary, that he is better off alone, that the world has nothing to offer him. But this mindset is a slow descent into apathy. A man without strong social connections is far more susceptible to depression, anxiety, and destructive habits. He becomes trapped in his own mind, lacking the external feedback that keeps thoughts and emotions balanced. Over time this can lead to a loss of motivation and an increasing sense of detachment from life itself. Maintaining social bonds requires effort, but the rewards are immeasurable. A man who cultivates friendships, seeks mentors, and engages with his community, builds a foundation that sustains him through life's inevitable struggles. He has people to turn to in times of hardship, people to celebrate with in times of success, and a sense of connection that gives life depth and meaning. The strength of a man is not just in his ability to stand alone, but in his ability to stand alongside others. A life without meaningful relationships is a life half-lived. A man must make a choice to build a life where he can thrive in solitude, or to shape himself into someone capable of forming meaningful companionship. Both paths demand effort, discipline, and a deep sense of purpose. There is no room for passivity, no waiting for circumstances to improve on their own, no drifting through life hoping for fulfillment to arrive uninvited. A man must take ownership of his existence, forging himself into someone worthy of respect, both from himself and from others. Whether he walks alone or with a partner, his journey must be one of continuous growth. If a man chooses to walk alone he must ensure that his solitude is not a refuge from responsibility, but a foundation for strength. To thrive alone is to cultivate independence, not just in a practical sense, but in an emotional and psychological one. It means learning to be self-sufficient, not just in financial matters or daily survival, but in the ability to generate meaning and purpose without external validation. A man who thrives alone does not retreat into complacency, he builds, he creates, he sharpens his mind, and body. He does not numb himself with distractions or lose himself in fleeting pleasures, instead he uses his solitude as an opportunity for mastery of skills, of knowledge, of himself. But solitude must not turn into isolation. A man without a romantic partner still needs needs deep and meaningful connections: friendships, mentors, community. These are essential to his well-being. He must make the effort to engage with the world, to challenge his ideas against those of others, to contribute to something larger than himself. Without this, solitude becomes a slow descent into detachment, and detachment leads to a life devoid of meaning. A man who chooses to remain alone must ensure that he is truly living, not merely existing in comfortable numbness. If a man chooses to build a life that welcomes companionship, he must recognize that meaningful relationships are not given, they are earned. A fulfilling relationship is not something that simply happens, it is something created through effort, through self-improvement, through becoming the kind of man who naturally attracts deep and lasting connection. This does not mean performing, or pretending to be someone he is not, it means genuinely cultivating the traits that make a man strong, reliable, and worthy of respect. Confidence, discipline, emotional intelligence, ambition... these are qualities that draw others in. Not through manipulation, but through their inherent value. Building a life that welcomes companionship requires facing one's weaknesses. A man who lacks confidence must confront the source of his insecurities. A man who struggles with discipline must instill structure in his daily life. A man who is bitter or resentful must address the wounds that created those emotions, rather than projecting them onto the world. It is not enough to simply desire a meaningful relationship, a man must become the kind of person who naturally fits into one. Thriving in any situation, regardless of which path a man chooses, the core principles remain the same. He must have purpose, a reason to wake up in the morning beyond fleeting pleasures, or obligations. He must have self-respect, built through discipline and effort, so that he does not compromise his integrity for the sake of comfort. And he must embrace continuous growth, because stagnation leads only to regret. Whether he walks alone, or alongside another, a man's journey is one of constant refinement. He is either moving forward or slipping backward. There is no standing still. The path forward is not easy, but it is clear a man must take responsibility for his own existence, shaping himself into someone who thrives regardless of circumstance. He must ensure that whether he remains alone or finds companionship, he is a man of substance, of depth, of purpose. Life does not hand out meaning freely, it must be forged, and a man who understands this truth will never be lost. In the end, a man's life is defined by the choices he makes and the challenges he embraces. Whether he walks alone or alongside a partner, he must build himself into someone capable of facing life with strength, purpose, and resilience. Solitude can be a source of power, but unchecked, isolation leads to stagnation. Growth requires adversity, discipline, and the courage to engage with the world. It was John Lang who said: "social bonds, friendships, and mentorship are not luxuries, but necessities keeping a man grounded and connected." The path forward is not about seeking comfort, but about forging character. A man must take responsibility for his own development, ensuring that he is not merely drifting, but actively shaping his future. If he chooses to thrive alone he must do so with intent, not out of avoidance. If he seeks companionship, he must become the kind of man who naturally attracts deep and meaningful relationships. In both cases, the foundation remains the same: self-respect, purpose, and continuous growth."
"Gentlemen let's talk about something fundamental: solitude. A man who lives alone without a girlfriend stands at a crossroads. He either becomes stronger through self-discipline and purpose, or he falls into stagnation, isolation, and despair. The absence of a romantic partner doesn't just mean he lacks affection, it means he has no immediate external source of validation, no one to push him toward higher aspirations, no one to challenge his complacency. His habits and routine will follow him wherever he goes, there's no separation. Now you might think, well I don't need anyone else, I'm independent, I take care of myself, and sure there's truth to that. Independence is vital, but let's be clear: living alone, truly alone, is not the same as being strong. Strength comes from engagement with the world, from taking on responsibility, from refining yourself in the presence of others. And here's the reality: you can trick yourself into believing that you're content in solitude. You wake up, you eat, you work, you play video games, you scroll through social media - you distract yourself. Days turn into weeks, weeks into months, and suddenly the silence in your apartment is no longer peaceful. It's deafening. The lack of another voice, another perspective, another challenge begins to eat away at your sense of purpose. But here's the key: if you're alone, you have two choices. You either use that solitude as an opportunity to build something meaningful, or you let it consume you. Because here's what happens to a man who lets isolation win. His discipline fades, his energy wanes, his ability to interact with the world erodes. He becomes passive. So what do you do? You structure your life with purpose, you cultivate discipline like your survival depends on it - because in many ways, it does. You learn to cook, not just heat up junk food. You read, not just to pass the time, but to refine your mind. You train your body, not just to look good, but because physical strength reinforces. And most importantly, you connect. If you don't have a romantic partner, that's fine, but you cannot bear the burden of living alone. You must seek out friends, mentors, colleagues, communities - you must challenge yourself socially, or you will become invisible, not just to others but to yourself. The question isn't whether a man can live alone without a girlfriend - he can - the real question is whether he is truly alive in that solitude, or whether he's merely existing. And that gentleman, is entirely up to him. Living alone without a partner is a paradox of human existence: on one hand it grants a man absolute freedom, freedom to structure his days as he pleases, to pursue his ambitions without compromise, to live unbound by the expectations, or needs of another. There is a certain appeal in this autonomy, in the ability to move through life without external constraints. He can wake up when he chooses, eat what he likes, dedicate his time entirely to personal goals, and avoid the complications that relationships inevitably bring for many men, especially those who have experienced difficult or unfulfilling relationships. Solitude initially feels like a form of liberation, a chance to focus on self-improvement, career aspirations, or personal hobbies without distraction. Yet beneath this surface of independence lies a deeper reality, one that often emerges only after an extended period of isolation. With freedom comes responsibility, and with responsibility comes the burden of managing one's own emotional and psychological well-being. When a man lives alone he is solely accountable for how he navigates his inner world. There is no external force to regulate his emotions, no immediate companionship to provide warmth, no daily interactions that force him to step outside of his own thoughts. It is entirely up to him to maintain his sense of purpose, his motivation, his engagement with the world... and this is where solitude can become dangerous for some men. Solitude, discipline, and self-reliance. They take the opportunity to refine their skills, cultivate knowledge, and develop a strong internal framework for resilience. They learn to manage their emotions without depending on validation from others, to take ownership of their failures, and to become the kind of man who can stand firmly on his own. This is the ideal outcome. Many men, instead of using solitude as a means of self-development, drift into patterns of stagnation. Without the external accountability that relationships often provide, they begin to lose their structure. Days become repetitive, devoid of challenge or novelty. The absence of another person to share thoughts and experiences with leads to an increasing detachment from the world. There is a deceptive comfort in isolation. When a man is alone, he avoids conflict, emotional turbulence, and the responsibilities that come with maintaining a relationship. But he also misses out on the very struggles that refine character and give life depth. Human beings are social creatures. Discipline is essential for a man, for connection. And even the most independent men are not immune to the psychological effects of prolonged loneliness over time. Solitude can dull the edges of ambition. A man may still go through the motions of his daily routine, but without shared experiences, without meaningful conversations, without the presence of another to challenge his thinking or provide support, his emotion landscape begins to shrink. He becomes more inwardly focused, his thoughts circling the same patterns, his perspective narrowing, and then one day he realizes something unsettling - the silence in his home, once peaceful, has become oppressive. The solitude, once a source of strength, now feels like a weight. The freedom that once seemed so appealing now carries a hidden cost. The burden of complete self-sufficiency. In a relationship, even in its most difficult moments, there is an external force that demands effort, growth, and adaptation. Alone, a man must generate this force himself. If he does not, he risks fading into a passive existence, where life is merely something that happens, rather than something he actively engages with. The burden of solitude is not just the absence of companionship, it is the requirement of being one's own source of structure, motivation, and emotional stability. It is the challenge of maintaining momentum without external reinforcement. It is a test of whether a man can truly stand alone, not just physically but mentally and emotionally. Some men rise to this challenge and become stronger because of it. Others slowly, and without realizing it, allow solitude to erode their sense of purpose, and in the end whether solitude becomes a blessing or a curse is determined by the choices a man makes in the silence of his own company. Discipline is the cornerstone of a man's existence when he walks through life alone. Without a partner to provide external validation, emotional support, or shared responsibility, he must rely entirely on his own ability to create order and structure. This is both a challenge and an opportunity. A test of whether he can impose the necessary structure upon himself, or whether he will allow his life to drift into aimlessness without discipline. Solitude quickly turns into stagnation and the absence of external accountability can lead to a slow erosion of ambition, purpose, and self-respect. A man who is alone has no one to remind him of his goals, no one to encourage him to get up early, no one to reinforce good habits, or call him out when he slips into complacency. He must become his own authority, his own source of motivation. This requires an internal framework of discipline, strong enough to resist the temptations of comfort, distraction, and procrastination. It is easy to let time slip away when there is no one waiting for you, no one relying on you, no shared vision pulling you forward. A day without structure quickly becomes a week without progress, and before long, months pass without any real movement toward anything meaningful. Discipline is not about rigid control, or punishment, it is about the ability to make decisions that align with a greater purpose, even when there is no immediate reward. A man must train himself to wake up with a mission, to establish routines that reinforce his growth, to set goals and pursue them with unwavering focus. He cannot afford to be ruled by fleeting emotions or momentary desires, because in solitude no one will correct him when he veers off course. If he lacks discipline, his habits will deteriorate, his sleep schedule will become inconsistent, his diet will decline, his physical health will suffer, and his mental clarity will diminish. He may rationalize his lack of structure by convincing himself that he is simply enjoying his freedom, but in reality, he is allowing his potential to decay. Discipline and solitude extends beyond mere routine. It is about the ability to manage one's mind, to maintain control over thoughts, emotions, and impulses. Without the emotional regulation that comes from shared experiences, a man must cultivate inner stability, he must learn to sit with his own thoughts, to work through moments of doubt and loneliness, without resorting to self-destructive behaviors. He must be able to push forward when motivation fades, because without discipline, motivation is fleeting and unreliable. There's also a deeper psychological component to discipline. When a man commits to structure, he builds self-respect, he proves to himself that he is capable of mastery, that he can impose order on his own existence. This is crucial, because in solitude a man's relationship with himself is paramount. If he allows himself to slip into laziness, indulgence, or apathy. He begins to lose trust in his own abilities. But if he demonstrates discipline through consistent effort, through self-imposed challenges, through the pursuit of excellence, he develops an unshakable belief in himself. This self-belief becomes his foundation, his guiding force when there is no external reinforcement. A man who lives alone must view discipline as a necessity for survival. It is the force that keeps his mind sharp, his body strong, and his purpose clear. It is what prevents him from being swallowed by the inertia of isolation. The world does not owe him structure, nor will it impose it upon him, he must create it for himself, every day without excuse. Because without discipline, solitude does not make a man free, it makes him lost. Solitude when used wisely can be a powerful tool for self-reflection and growth, it allows a man to step away from distractions, to analyze his life, to refine his thoughts, and to cultivate independence. Many great minds throughout history have embraced solitude as a means of deep introspection, finding clarity and strength in the absence of noise. However, there is a fine line between solitude and isolation. And when that line is crossed, the benefits of being alone begin to erode. What was once a period of productive reflection can slowly turn into stagnation, detachment, and an alarming loss of social competence. At first, isolation may not seem dangerous. It often starts subtly, a man spends more time by himself, prioritizing personal projects, enjoying the freedom of being unburdened by social obligations. He tells himself that he is simply focusing on his goals, that he doesn't need constant interaction to be fulfilled, and in truth there is a certain appeal to living in one's own world unshaped by the influence of others. The problem arises when solitude becomes the default state, rather than a temporary retreat. The longer a man remains isolated, the more his perception of reality becomes distorted. One of the first signs of unhealthy isolation is stagnation. Without social interactions to provide feedback, challenge ideas, or introduce new perspectives, a man's thinking begins to loop in predictable patterns. His ambitions may fade, because there is no external reinforcement pushing him forward. When left entirely to his own devices, without external accountability, it becomes easier to settle into routines that lack growth. He may still convince himself that he's working towards something meaningful, but without exposure to the world outside his own mind, his progress slows. There is no friction, no challenge, no sense of urgency. Life becomes comfortable, but comfort in isolation often leads to decay. Beyond stagnation, prolonged isolation fosters detachment. Human beings are inherently social creatures, interaction is wired into our psychology. When a man removes himself from social circles for too long, his ability to connect with others begins to weaken. The rhythms of conversation, the nuances of body language, the unspoken rules of social engagement - all of these skills require practice. When a man isolates himself, he loses touch with them. He becomes increasingly comfortable in his own presence, but less capable in the presence of others. Over time, he may begin to feel out of sync with the world, as if he is watching life unfold from behind a glass barrier. This detachment doesn't just affect how he interacts with others, it changes how he perceives himself. When a man is alone for too long, he can start to see himself through a warped lens. He may become overly critical, magnifying his flaws without external reassurance, or he may go in the opposite direction, building an inflated self impude that isn't tested by real world interactions. In either case, isolation skews self-perception, making it harder to reintegrate into social life. Perhaps the most alarming consequence of prolonged isolation is the gradual loss of social competence. Social skills, like any other ability, require regular use. A man who isolates himself for too long will find that when he does attempt to re-engage, he struggles. Conversations feel awkward. He second guesses his words. He misreads social cues. And because these experiences are uncomfortable, he may withdraw further, reinforcing the cycle of isolation. Over time he convinces himself that he simply doesn't fit in, that he is better off alone. But this is not because he is incapable of connection, it is because he has neglected the skills required to connect. Isolation is insidious because it often feels like a choice, even when it has become a trap. The longer a man stays in it, the harder it is to break free. The world moves on without him, friendships fade, and reintegration becomes more difficult. But the solution is not complicated - it requires conscious effort. A man must actively seek engagement, even when it feels unnatural. At first he must push himself into uncomfortable social situations, challenge his own excuses, and recognize that solitude, when overindulged, ceases to be a strength and becomes a weakness. Solitude is a tool, but isolation is a disease. If a man does not guard against it, he risks waking up one day to find that he has not only lost his connection to the world, but more importantly his connection to himself. Masculine growth is forged through challenge. A man without a romantic partner does not have the built-in responsibilities, emotional exchanges, and daily interactions that a relationship naturally provides. Without this dynamic force pushing him forward, he must deliberately seek out challenges elsewhere, lest he drift into complacency. Growth does not happen in comfort; it happens in adversity. A man who is alone must decide whether his solitude will be a catalyst for transformation, or an excuse for stagnation. Without the external structure of a relationship, a man must create his own path toward growth. This means engaging with the world in meaningful ways, taking on responsibilities, and setting ambitious goals. The worst mistake a man can make in solitude is to slip into a passive existence, filling his time with distractions rather than purpose. It is easy to waste days, weeks, even years in meaningless entertainment, consuming rather than creating, avoiding struggle rather than embracing it. But growth demands friction, it demands that a man put himself in situations where he must rise to meet the challenge. Physical discipline is one of the most direct ways to cultivate masculine growth. Training the body is not just about aesthetics or health, it is about mastering oneself. The gym, the dojo, the running trail - these places are not merely spaces for exercise, but arenas where a man confronts his limits. Lifting weights teaches patience and perseverance. Martial arts teach discipline and resilience. Endurance training cultivates mental toughness. A man who commits to physical excellence is not just sculpting his body, he is forging his character, he is proving to himself day after day that he can push through pain, discomfort, and fatigue. This strength carries over into all other areas of life, beyond the physical. A man must challenge himself intellectually and creatively. Without a relationship to provide intellectual stimulation through conversation and shared perspectives, he must seek knowledge actively, reading, learning new skills, engaging in deep work. These are the mental equivalents of lifting heavy weights. A man should be expanding his mind, questioning his beliefs, refining his thoughts. He should take on projects that stretch his capabilities, whether it is writing, coding, or creating. Complacency thrives in routine, growth thrives in challenge. If a man does not push his intellect, he risks falling into a stagnant, passive way of thinking, where his mind becomes dull and untested. Social engagement is another critical area where a man must challenge himself. It is easy to withdraw from social life when there is no partner drawing him into shared experiences, but isolation when unchecked weakens social intelligence. A man must be deliberate in building and maintaining relationships with friends, mentors, colleagues, and even strangers. He should seek out environments where he is forced to interact, where he must learn to communicate effectively, where he must navigate different personalities and perspectives. Social competence is a skill and like any skill it deteriorates if not practiced. Purpose is perhaps the most significant challenge a man must embrace. Without the external validation and emotional connection of a partner, a man must define his own mission. This mission cannot be vague or half-hearted, it must be something that drives him forward every day, whether it is career ambition, creative pursuits, athletic excellence, or a deeper philosophical journey. A man must wake up with a sense of direction. A man with a mission does not need distractions to fill his time, his time is already accounted for, devoted to something greater than himself. Solitude is neither good nor bad, it is what a man makes of it. Used correctly, it becomes a period of immense growth, a time to sharpen his mind, strengthen his body, deepen his character, and refine his purpose. Used poorly, it becomes an excuse for comfort, laziness, and avoidance. A man who understands the necessity of challenge does not fear solitude - he uses it as fuel, he seeks adversity, knowing that every hardship overcome makes him stronger. And in doing so, he transforms not only his life, but himself. Human beings are inherently social creatures and no man, no matter how independent or self-sufficient, can thrive in complete isolation. While solitude can be valuable for self-reflection and personal growth, prolonged detachment from social interaction leads to loneliness, stagnation, and even nihilism. A man without a romantic relationship must actively engage with the world, build meaningful relationships, and foster a sense of belonging within his community. Without strong social bonds, he risks falling into a void where his sense of purpose and identity slowly erode. Friendships serve as one of the most essential pillars of a man's social life, a strong circle of friends provides camaraderie, support, and accountability. Through shared experiences, challenges, and discussions, friendships offer a source of motivation and perspective that cannot be found in isolation. Men sharpen one another through competition, collaboration, and honest feedback. And so, a man building strong friendships and mentorships, surrounded by good friends, is less likely to fall into self-destructive habits, or allow complacency to take root. His friends challenge him, encourage him, and remind him of his worth when he begins to doubt himself. But friendships do not maintain themselves, they require effort. A man must take the initiative to reach out, to organize gatherings, to be present in the lives of those he values. Passively waiting for social interactions to happen leads only to further isolation. Beyond friendships, mentors play a crucial role in a man's development. Without a romantic partner, a man must be even more intentional about seeking guidance from those who have walked the path before him. A mentor, whether in career, philosophy, fitness, or any other domain, provides wisdom, perspective, and a level of accountability that is difficult to cultivate alone. A mentor helps a man refine his thinking, avoid common pitfalls, and accelerate his growth. Too many men try to navigate life without seeking counsel, believing they must figure everything out on their own. But wisdom is often borrowed, before it is earned. And a man who isolates himself from those who can teach him is bound to repeat avoidable mistakes. Finding mentors requires humility and effort. A man must put himself in environments where experienced individuals gather, whether in professional settings, social organizations, or intellectual circles. He must be willing to listen more than he speaks, and to apply the lessons he learns. Community is another essential component of a man's social foundation. Even if he does not have a romantic partner, he must still belong to something greater than himself, whether it is a professional network, a sports team, a creative group, a volunteer organization, or a religious institution. Being part of a community reinforces a sense of purpose, it reminds a man that his actions affect others, that he has a role to play in the world. A man who engages with his community gains both practical and emotional benefits, he expands his network, finds new opportunities, and feels the satisfaction of contributing to something meaningful. The danger of neglecting social bonds is not just loneliness, it is nihilism. When a man withdraws too far from the world, his sense of meaning begins to erode. He may convince himself that relationships are unnecessary, that he is better off alone, that the world has nothing to offer him. But this mindset is a slow descent into apathy. A man without strong social connections is far more susceptible to depression, anxiety, and destructive habits. He becomes trapped in his own mind, lacking the external feedback that keeps thoughts and emotions balanced. Over time this can lead to a loss of motivation and an increasing sense of detachment from life itself. Maintaining social bonds requires effort, but the rewards are immeasurable. A man who cultivates friendships, seeks mentors, and engages with his community, builds a foundation that sustains him through life's inevitable struggles. He has people to turn to in times of hardship, people to celebrate with in times of success, and a sense of connection that gives life depth and meaning. The strength of a man is not just in his ability to stand alone, but in his ability to stand alongside others. A life without meaningful relationships is a life half-lived. A man must make a choice to build a life where he can thrive in solitude, or to shape himself into someone capable of forming meaningful companionship. Both paths demand effort, discipline, and a deep sense of purpose. There is no room for passivity, no waiting for circumstances to improve on their own, no drifting through life hoping for fulfillment to arrive uninvited. A man must take ownership of his existence, forging himself into someone worthy of respect, both from himself and from others. Whether he walks alone or with a partner, his journey must be one of continuous growth. If a man chooses to walk alone he must ensure that his solitude is not a refuge from responsibility, but a foundation for strength. To thrive alone is to cultivate independence, not just in a practical sense, but in an emotional and psychological one. It means learning to be self-sufficient, not just in financial matters or daily survival, but in the ability to generate meaning and purpose without external validation. A man who thrives alone does not retreat into complacency, he builds, he creates, he sharpens his mind, and body. He does not numb himself with distractions or lose himself in fleeting pleasures, instead he uses his solitude as an opportunity for mastery of skills, of knowledge, of himself. But solitude must not turn into isolation. A man without a romantic partner still needs needs deep and meaningful connections: friendships, mentors, community. These are essential to his well-being. He must make the effort to engage with the world, to challenge his ideas against those of others, to contribute to something larger than himself. Without this, solitude becomes a slow descent into detachment, and detachment leads to a life devoid of meaning. A man who chooses to remain alone must ensure that he is truly living, not merely existing in comfortable numbness. If a man chooses to build a life that welcomes companionship, he must recognize that meaningful relationships are not given, they are earned. A fulfilling relationship is not something that simply happens, it is something created through effort, through self-improvement, through becoming the kind of man who naturally attracts deep and lasting connection. This does not mean performing, or pretending to be someone he is not, it means genuinely cultivating the traits that make a man strong, reliable, and worthy of respect. Confidence, discipline, emotional intelligence, ambition... these are qualities that draw others in. Not through manipulation, but through their inherent value. Building a life that welcomes companionship requires facing one's weaknesses. A man who lacks confidence must confront the source of his insecurities. A man who struggles with discipline must instill structure in his daily life. A man who is bitter or resentful must address the wounds that created those emotions, rather than projecting them onto the world. It is not enough to simply desire a meaningful relationship, a man must become the kind of person who naturally fits into one. Thriving in any situation, regardless of which path a man chooses, the core principles remain the same. He must have purpose, a reason to wake up in the morning beyond fleeting pleasures, or obligations. He must have self-respect, built through discipline and effort, so that he does not compromise his integrity for the sake of comfort. And he must embrace continuous growth, because stagnation leads only to regret. Whether he walks alone, or alongside another, a man's journey is one of constant refinement. He is either moving forward or slipping backward. There is no standing still. The path forward is not easy, but it is clear a man must take responsibility for his own existence, shaping himself into someone who thrives regardless of circumstance. He must ensure that whether he remains alone or finds companionship, he is a man of substance, of depth, of purpose. Life does not hand out meaning freely, it must be forged, and a man who understands this truth will never be lost. In the end, a man's life is defined by the choices he makes and the challenges he embraces. Whether he walks alone or alongside a partner, he must build himself into someone capable of facing life with strength, purpose, and resilience. Solitude can be a source of power, but unchecked, isolation leads to stagnation. Growth requires adversity, discipline, and the courage to engage with the world. It was John Lang who said: "social bonds, friendships, and mentorship are not luxuries, but necessities keeping a man grounded and connected." The path forward is not about seeking comfort, but about forging character. A man must take responsibility for his own development, ensuring that he is not merely drifting, but actively shaping his future. If he chooses to thrive alone he must do so with intent, not out of avoidance. If he seeks companionship, he must become the kind of man who naturally attracts deep and meaningful relationships. In both cases, the foundation remains the same: self-respect, purpose, and continuous growth."
29/01/2025 @20:30
Feel like I'm stagnating gentlemen. Need to get back on the grind soon.
Feel like I'm stagnating gentlemen. Need to get back on the grind soon.
29/01/2025 @23:30
Relaxed night playing Crisis Core 🎮 and now I'm off to bed early(ish) to catchup on sleep! 😪
Relaxed night playing Crisis Core 🎮 and now I'm off to bed early(ish) to catchup on sleep! 😪
29/01/2025 @08:12
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The message was received, because no message was received.
30/01/2025 @18:35
Landlady has asked me to measure up the dimensions of the back gate, so I anticipate a new one is on the cards! 🙏🏻
Landlady has asked me to measure up the dimensions of the back gate, so I anticipate a new one is on the cards! 🙏🏻
30/01/2025 @19:52
That's Keanu's & Sammie's presents wrapped 🎁 and now I can relax & look forward to Roberto's this weekend! 🍕
That's Keanu's & Sammie's presents wrapped 🎁 and now I can relax & look forward to Roberto's this weekend! 🍕
30/01/2025 @21:27
[Listening to Royal & The Serpent: Wasteland]
"I know it's my fault that I'm here all alone / This world is a wasteland, please let me go..."
[Listening to Royal & The Serpent: Wasteland]
"I know it's my fault that I'm here all alone / This world is a wasteland, please let me go..."
30/01/2025 @23:45
[Playing Crisis Core: FFVII Reunion]
Oh damn, mha hart, mah sole. I totally forgot that the Slum 5 Church was Zack and Aerith, not Cloud 🥹... so much nostalgia and trauma... fucking PTSD rn... Aerith, fuck... 😭
[Playing Crisis Core: FFVII Reunion]
Oh damn, mha hart, mah sole. I totally forgot that the Slum 5 Church was Zack and Aerith, not Cloud 🥹... so much nostalgia and trauma... fucking PTSD rn... Aerith, fuck... 😭
31/01/2025 @09:51
I had a conversation with my Mom last year and as it was relevant to the discussion, I stated that I don't agree with physical discipline. To my utter bewilderment, she said that she had always felt the same and would never lay a hand on her kids. I went silent in confusion. My Mom then asked why I'd gone quiet, and I replied that I vividly remember her smacking me all the time as a child, it was the primary mode of punishment. She then flat out denied it had ever happened and gaslit me so much that I had to call a couple of my siblings afterwards to make sure I hadn't imagined it... of course, I hadn't, my siblings validated my memories. My Mom has never apologised for anything either - that's a large part of why my own daughter has nothing to do with her.
I had a conversation with my Mom last year and as it was relevant to the discussion, I stated that I don't agree with physical discipline. To my utter bewilderment, she said that she had always felt the same and would never lay a hand on her kids. I went silent in confusion. My Mom then asked why I'd gone quiet, and I replied that I vividly remember her smacking me all the time as a child, it was the primary mode of punishment. She then flat out denied it had ever happened and gaslit me so much that I had to call a couple of my siblings afterwards to make sure I hadn't imagined it... of course, I hadn't, my siblings validated my memories. My Mom has never apologised for anything either - that's a large part of why my own daughter has nothing to do with her.
31/01/2025 @10:45
RIP Alf 🐶 Hope Moz can find some comfort in knowing that Alf's not going to suffer and that he made a heartbreaking decision out of unconditional love ❤ I read somewhere that death always has to go one of two ways, and either way, one of the parties has to suffer. Moz chose to accept the suffering for Alf, so that he could go peacefully. There's nothing more loving he could have done.
RIP Alf 🐶 Hope Moz can find some comfort in knowing that Alf's not going to suffer and that he made a heartbreaking decision out of unconditional love ❤ I read somewhere that death always has to go one of two ways, and either way, one of the parties has to suffer. Moz chose to accept the suffering for Alf, so that he could go peacefully. There's nothing more loving he could have done.
31/01/2025 @23:16
Tried play Scarf on Epic but the PC froze, so fucked it off. Played a bit Crisis Core cause Lysh was just on Tik-Tok & watching Minecraft on YouTube... next thing, we're both on Minecraft with some furniture pack 🪑😂 then we're back to doomscrolling IG reels & TT; Bug with her infinite Arcane/SBG edits 😅
Tried play Scarf on Epic but the PC froze, so fucked it off. Played a bit Crisis Core cause Lysh was just on Tik-Tok & watching Minecraft on YouTube... next thing, we're both on Minecraft with some furniture pack 🪑😂 then we're back to doomscrolling IG reels & TT; Bug with her infinite Arcane/SBG edits 😅
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